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Dupac
Dupac Members, Writer Posts: 68,365 ✭✭✭✭✭
edited March 2011 in For The Grown & Sexy
I dunno, I mean I don't think I could ever do it, I can't see myself pulling it off... but I wonder how I would react if I saw a couple that could operate with it, and operate well. ...

Like they had a genuine bond with eachother, really in love, and would never leave each other for anybody else in the world. However they freely ? other people all the time with no problems or jealousy at all...

Like would that trip you out?? I know I'd be bugged....

Like imagine being out n about and seeing your homeboy's wife with another ? , and she actually came over and spoke to you like it's nothing. And if you told this ? he wouldn't even care, cuz he had another chick at the crib while shorty was out with her other ? .. they both knew what the other was doing, and that ? was 100% in the cool....

? like that would be a trip...... Does anyone know any couples like this? like how do they get down??
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  • b@squ1@t redux
    b@squ1@t redux Members Posts: 13,035 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    love-jones-jada-pinkett-smith-will-smith.jpg

    ..............
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  • ms.jones
    ms.jones Members Posts: 5,796 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    I know a bi-racial couple...he picks them, and they both enjoy the female he picked out.

    Been married for 7 years, and love each other dearly, and are completely devoted to each other.
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  • S2J
    S2J Members Posts: 28,458 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    ms.jones wrote: »
    I know a bi-racial couple...he picks them, and they both enjoy the female he picked out.

    Been married for 7 years, and love each other dearly, and are completely devoted to each other.

    Well there you have it! It MUST be a good idea then
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  • kevmic
    kevmic Members Posts: 1,888 ✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    I think these people exists, but I still think one of them is only doing it to keep the other person happy. I actually lived in a house with 2 of my homeboys and one of my friend's girl. The couple had an open relationship, even had chick come by the crib to ? and everything. But it was really only for him. She was scared to lose him, and she didn't want him to cheat, so she gave him the okay to ? with other chicks, and she ? with girls too. The only rule was she was never allowed to ? with other men.

    I asked her about it one day, and she even told me she really don't like seeing him with other women, but she know he'll just do it behind her back, so she let him ? with other girls as long as she gets to approve of her. ? was weird.
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  • Dupac
    Dupac Members, Writer Posts: 68,365 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    damn son, could you imagine smashing jada....getting your coat to leave her hotel room, and will come in with some food like

    "o damn my ? , i thought you were already gone....don't mind me"

    *looks at his watch*

    "damn yo.. u been in here for like 2 hours!!"

    *smiles at jada*

    "he was putting in work hunh babe?!!!"
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  • ms.jones
    ms.jones Members Posts: 5,796 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    s2jepeka wrote: »
    Well there you have it! It MUST be a good idea then

    If it works for them, so be it. *shrugs* Doesn't mean everyone can handle that kind of situation.
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  • S2J
    S2J Members Posts: 28,458 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    Its bullshyt.

    Aitn no real ngga havin his chick gettin dicked down and you KNOW it.

    Thats a sucker.

    Might as well be one of the dudes married to porn stars...
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  • Dupac
    Dupac Members, Writer Posts: 68,365 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    ms.jones wrote: »
    I know a bi-racial couple...he picks them, and they both enjoy the female he picked out.

    Been married for 7 years, and love each other dearly, and are completely devoted to each other.

    i've heard of couples that do that ? ......and i've even heard of swingers, and actually was invited to a swingers party/orgy once.....but i think that's more so on some kinky ? cuz they all do it together on some group activities n ?
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  • jellybean84
    jellybean84 Confirm Email Posts: 1,560
    edited February 2011
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    I like woman. I think they are sexy, but I like ? more....
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  • Niggersauce
    Niggersauce Members Posts: 3,040 ✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    Wish my wife was into this type of ? ..

    If anything i just feel like both sides have to be secure with thiers to allow thier mate to go out and ? yet trust them to not catch feelings.
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  • The BAPHOMET
    The BAPHOMET Members Posts: 3,601 ✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    you would think cheaters would find each other and have an open relationship
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  • kat2180
    kat2180 Members Posts: 12,056 ✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    I don't if I could handle this but I haven't completely written it off..forever is a LONG time to be with one person.
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  • willhustle
    willhustle Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 6,550 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    s2jepeka wrote: »
    Its bullshyt.

    Aitn no real ngga havin his chick gettin dicked down and you KNOW it.

    Thats a sucker.

    Might as well be one of the dudes married to porn stars...

    Some true ? being spoke that open relationship is basically deliberate desrespect.
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  • hummingbird
    hummingbird Members, Banned Users Posts: 2,341 ✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    Been there, done that. It works for some, for some it doesnt.

    *waits for a certain someone to give thier input on this thread*
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  • kevmic
    kevmic Members Posts: 1,888 ✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    TheEyeronic1 wrote: »
    see folks, the first rule to pimping is CONFUSING the ? .



    how the HELL did she agree to these stipulations? lol ? .

    LOL...I use to always laugh at the setup. She liked girls, but not on the level where she always want to ? with one. He even laughs because he didn't know the ? would even work, he said he just hit her with it one day and she was cool with it.
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  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited February 2011
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    are you differentiating from polyamory or you just talking about people who have sex outside the confines of their relationships. because the latter is every day ? ... folks just in denial about it
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  • hummingbird
    hummingbird Members, Banned Users Posts: 2,341 ✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    Coby Vibes wrote: »
    are you differentiating from polyamory or you just talking about people who have sex outside the confines of their relationships. because the latter is every day ? ... folks just in denial about it

    polyamory >>>> polygamy or open relationships
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  • haute
    haute Members Posts: 11,581 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    I know of a situation where the husband moved his mistress in

    They all have been living together for years now, I think I've told this story before.....

    The wife doesn't enjoy the 'fun', but they all hang out and split the bills together

    Idk it works for some people

    I think a lot of it has to do with how the couple views sex
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  • bigrizz
    bigrizz Members Posts: 4,369 ✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    ms.jones wrote: »
    I know a bi-racial couple...he picks them, and they both enjoy the female he picked out.

    Been married for 7 years, and love each other dearly, and are completely devoted to each other.

    How can you love someone and be devoted yet have relations wth another person?
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  • Nthngis4vr
    Nthngis4vr Members Posts: 2,171 ✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    it's not something i could be down with. I've never known anyone in an open relationship. Only where the girl/wife tolerates him stepping out.
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  • bigrizz
    bigrizz Members Posts: 4,369 ✭✭✭
    edited February 2011
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    I guess if you can lay ground rules and you both agree, to each his own. But what if shorty wants to start bringing home other dudes and vice versa? Someone is bound to catch feelings
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  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited February 2011
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    hummingbird wrote: »
    polyamory >>>> polygamy or open relationships

    so why dont people just google and youtube it so they can understand rather than speculating amongst people who really dont know how it works. understanding comes from learning from people who live it... not just speculating with people just as uninformed as yourself.
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  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited February 2011
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    bigrizz wrote: »
    How can you love someone and be devoted yet have relations wth another person?

    because each relationship is kept in perspective. I would assume,
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  • blackrain
    blackrain Members, Moderators Posts: 27,269 Regulator
    edited February 2011
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    you have to be really secure for it to work but I know a married couple that's into it...shocked me too because they don't even seem like they'd be into no wild ?
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  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited February 2011
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    blackrain wrote: »
    you have to be really secure for it to work but I know a married couple that's into it...shocked me too because they don't even seem like they'd be into no wild ?


    secure and non posseive and controlling. that's why it's mostly white people. black dudes are too insecure and immature
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