Question for the ladies: Faking a orgasm, is that winning or losing?
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I mean I know the popular reasons why most of yall do at times.
1. Don't want to hurt the guy ego
2. You want him to have the best sexual experience aka stroke his ego a lil bit more then it needs to be.
The thing I want to know is how do you feel about the situation after faking it?
Do you ever question the level of your sex drive when this happens or do you just blame it on the guy and keep it moving?
Coming from a mans point of view. If I ever had trouble getting off during wild passionate sex I would think something is wrong with me. Or I would come to the conclusion that I'm just not into the girl that much. My last option would be blaming the girls sex game.
1. Don't want to hurt the guy ego
2. You want him to have the best sexual experience aka stroke his ego a lil bit more then it needs to be.
The thing I want to know is how do you feel about the situation after faking it?
Do you ever question the level of your sex drive when this happens or do you just blame it on the guy and keep it moving?
Coming from a mans point of view. If I ever had trouble getting off during wild passionate sex I would think something is wrong with me. Or I would come to the conclusion that I'm just not into the girl that much. My last option would be blaming the girls sex game.
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Faking an orgasm?
Never have I nor will I ever.
Much of it has to do with knowing your body and loosening up, especially those muscles which are often tense when you are focusing on everything but the moment.
I have no difficulty in this department. -
it's losing if it's just a fuckbuddy, when in a relationship... you got to do that ? sometimes because you're still expected to put out even when you may not feel like it
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faking an orgasm does neither party any good really...the woman gets no real pleasure and the guy will continue to do the same things that provide the woman no pleasure because she's not being honest with him...
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Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Faking an orgasm?
Never have I nor will I ever.
Much of it has to do with knowing your body and loosening up, especially those muscles which are often tense when you are focusing on everything but the moment.
I have no difficulty in this department.
this is true but I think most women fake orgasms to get the sex over with. it doesnt have to do with pleasure. you cant fake you're own pleasure... that's silly -
I swear 95% of females do this ? when they gettin dicked down, i'm talkin strictly ? . Their loss for faking. I think most broads fake an orgasm because they feel that's what they're "supposed" to do based on what they see in pornos and movies when hoes be fake moanin and hollerin and ? . *shrugs* just my 2 cents
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Coby Vibes wrote: »this is true but I think most women fake orgasms to get the sex over with. it doesnt have to do with pleasure. you cant fake you're own pleasure... that's silly
Silly is what the highlighted is and may I add extremely.
I don't personally see the point of even starting if all you want to do is finish and that does not include quickies because even with those you want to be a part of the action, you just have to get it in quickly.
And no, you cannot fake your own pleasure therefore I do not fake orgasms but if we are getting sexual, it's pretty much a guarantee it will happen. Now if I were to engage in casual sex, I could very well guarantee the opposite. I wouldn't be able to ? for the life of me if we aren't there mentally. That's the greatest orgasm "dealbreaker" for me. -
Its losing forreal
once I stopped doing that bogus ? I started winning -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Faking an orgasm?
Never have I nor will I ever.
Much of it has to do with knowing your body and loosening up, especially those muscles which are often tense when you are focusing on everything but the moment.
I have no difficulty in this department. -
deep east oakland p wrote: »I've heard hella girls say they have before. I had a talk with my girl and she feels the same way as you. She has admitted that she has "put on" a lil during sex with me just for my pleasure. But she told me she has never faked it b4. She's told me If she ever has to fake it then she is not feeling the guy enough to even have sex with him anymore. She also says just because she doesn't get off doesn't mean she didn't enjoy the sex. That has to be one of the realest things a female has said to me lol(I know that sounds fu.cked up).
It is true. Just because you don't have an orgasm doesn't mean the feeling of the sex wasn't enjoyable. It's all fun, all a feeling of pleasure and excitement but the sensation of that orgasm is basically the icing on the cake, the finale (of many for those who are able). Once you get many women started, they can't stop. -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Silly is what the highlighted is and may I add extremely.
I don't personally see the point of even starting if all you want to do is finish and that does not include quickies because even with those you want to be a part of the action, you just have to get it in quickly.
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in this scenario like I said, that may occur within the confines of relationships moreso marriage when there is an expectation to perform whether you want to or not. It's called "wifely duties" -
Coby Vibes wrote: »in this scenario like I said, that may occur within the confines of relationships moreso marriage when there is an expectation to perform whether you want to or not. It's called "wifely duties"
For real!!!.......dayumn!!! It must feel really good to have a dude that's willing and ready damn near every time you want it. But when it's the other way around it's called "wifely duties". I'm not even going to try to begin to understand that one lol. My girl woke me up one time in the middle of me sleeping and I wasn't even tripping. That ? turned me on lol I didn't even care that I had to get up for work in 2 hours. I WOULD NEVER TRY THAT ON HER THOUGH LOL. -
Coby Vibes wrote: »in this scenario like I said, that may occur within the confines of relationships moreso marriage when there is an expectation to perform whether you want to or not. It's called "wifely duties"
I don't look at it like that. It's not a "drag" to me but I would also again say that sexual compatibility is quite important in a relationship.deep east oakland p wrote: »For real!!!.......dayumn!!! It must feel really good to have a dude that's willing and ready damn near every time you want it. But when it's the other way around it's called "wifely duties". I'm not even going to try to begin to understand that one lol. My girl woke me up one time in the middle of me sleeping and I wasn't even tripping. That ? turned me on lol I didn't even care that I had to get up for work in 2 hours. I WOULD NEVER TRY THAT ON HER THOUGH LOL.
Lol. My ex and I would do this to each other all the time. Only difference was I'd be all extra with it at times. -
deep east oakland p wrote: »For real!!!.......dayumn!!! It must feel really good to have a dude that's willing and ready damn near every time you want it. But when it's the other way around it's called "wifely duties". I'm not even going to try to begin to understand that one lol. My girl woke me up one time in the middle of me sleeping and I wasn't even tripping. That ? turned me on lol I didn't even care that I had to get up for work in 2 hours. I WOULD NEVER TRY THAT ON HER THOUGH LOL.Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »I don't look at it like that. It's not a "drag" to me but I would also again say that sexual compatibility is quite important in a relationship.
Lol. My ex and I would do this to each other all the time. Only difference was I'd be all extra with it at times.
it's not about lack of sexual compatibility but timing. compatibility and timing are too very different things. -
? u better hurry up and bust that nut
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that's a L
1. youre letting a man sweat and grunt on top of you, and you get nothing in return
2. youre rewarding the poor performance by pretending -
Coby Vibes wrote: »people are tired...really tired and sometimes both men and women do it just to appease the other person. the longer you are with a person, the more chances you are gonna have to be "off" as far as schedule men fake it too
it's not about lack of sexual compatibility but timing. compatibility and timing are too very different things.
I get it. Not every woman is guaranteed to be in the mood every time her her man is. But even with that there's good ways to get in the mood to lead up to that point where you also have the urge to get it in.
The two can be relative though and does apply to some folks, not necessarily you though. -
Faking orgasms is by far the worst ? ever, I never understand why some women do that ? . Even some ? be doing it which makes absolutely no sense. If you anit ? why fake it then?? Just to raise the ? self esteem when your left sexual unsatisfied?? SMH
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Depends if your not in the mood and you want this ? to stop begging. Better yet just give him some good ? action.
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everybody wins.............
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that's a L
1. youre letting a man sweat and grunt on top of you, and you get nothing in return
2. youre rewarding the poor performance by pretending
I told my wife that if she ever feels the need to do this, DON'T!
because of number 2! I plan on being with her forever so rewarding poor performance only prolongs something that will happen on a frequent basis.