Is it only "cheating" until AFTER you're officially committed?
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Recaptimus_Prime360
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Would you be considered a cheater if you was dating 2 or more people at the same time.
I ask b/c of my (and others) personal experience. Some women have this perception that if you're seeing them, you're only exclusive to them. Despite not even making anything official. Yes ladies, I'm aware some guys act that way wit y'all as well. I've been called a "cheater" before, just b/c I've gone out wit another woman. But I'm not in a relationship wit anybody.
Has the rules of dating changed? Are you only allowed to see one person at a time?
I ask b/c of my (and others) personal experience. Some women have this perception that if you're seeing them, you're only exclusive to them. Despite not even making anything official. Yes ladies, I'm aware some guys act that way wit y'all as well. I've been called a "cheater" before, just b/c I've gone out wit another woman. But I'm not in a relationship wit anybody.
Has the rules of dating changed? Are you only allowed to see one person at a time?
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If you're dating other girls at the same time let her know. Honesty is the best policy.
Females will get the perception that you're playing them...and you kinda are
lol stop playin games ? -
If you're dating other girls at the same time let her know. Honesty is the best policy.
Females will get the perception that you're playing them...and you kinda are
lol stop playin games ?
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Why do you need to let other females know you're not only talking to just them unless you want to make them jealous or step up their game to be with you? Did I just answer my own question?
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to be 100% honest i would never let them know unless i dont give a ? about them. if i would give a ? about them i wouldnt do it in the first place...
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Numbaz got a very good point. Me personally, I don't ask. That's on them whether or not they tell me.
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Cain Marko wrote: »Just tell them what it is from the beginning. Let them have the ball so if they wanna ? with you its on them. You stayed to true so it want be a shock to any parties involved. Dudes be lying for no reason just be honest so your spot want get blown up from a chick.
They don't hear you though
These ? secretly like drama like some females
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Just ask yourself would u consider it cheating if you were on the flipside of that.. Imma go out on a limb and say you wouldnt be deep in thought coming to a conclusion
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if you have a mutual understanding then It can be cheating...imo....but it all comes down to communication
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Its only cheating when you get caught....so the rule of thumb is don't get caught.
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Its only cheating when you get caught....so the rule of thumb is don't get caught.
^^this
and for real, whether you tell the broad straight up or not whats good, you still going to have problems (if you get caught)
especially if you laying down the pipe proper...majority of women tend to get clingy, but that's their nature
To answer T/S, its not cheating if you dating two or more people...? has to be official. IDGAF to tell a broad or not about what I'm doing. As long as the doc is using protection and handling his business, I can do what ever the ? I want to. Now if we are official, hell yea its cheating...thats another part of the game. The doc is not treating a dating scenario with a woman as if its a relationship scenario. That's speeding, slow that ? down ma. We date to see if we are able to take it to that level. But through my experiences telling a broad wats up from the gate doesn't matter, women don't listen anyway. So if she has a problem with it, I just flip on the ? game and let her see the exit, if she so chooses. ? all that tight ? , people to tight on the dating process, relationships and then these maphukas wanna get married. You not sucking the lifeforce outta the doc with that ? ...
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If there's ? involved everyone has the right to know wtf is going on.
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To what extent though? As long as you wearing protection, if that isn't your full time lover, why are you disclosing that info? Who is she to you? I don't get that ? for real. People treat dating like its relationships. They wear out their own welcomes before you even make it to the relationship level. Im not asking broads for their past whoredom reports, so why the hell do I need to disclose who I'm ? and who I'm not-all because we go out on dates? Lol! Crazy as hell!
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@BiblicalAtheist thats understandable
but u know in the real world ppl ? first and asking questions last -
C/s Chemix. I've given the "I'm not looking for a relationship" disclaimer to a couple of women I've met in beginning. They don't listen. B/c they feel they can change your mind. Then they wanna get mad you b/c you haven't budge on the commitment. I'be gotten the "I'm just wasting my time" speeches. Smh
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darkone360 wrote:Would you be considered a cheater if you was dating 2 or more people at the same time.
I ask b/c of my (and others) personal experience. Some women have this perception that if you're seeing them, you're only exclusive to them. Despite not even making anything official. Yes ladies, I'm aware some guys act that way wit y'all as well. I've been called a "cheater" before, just b/c I've gone out wit another woman. But I'm not in a relationship wit anybody.
Has the rules of dating changed? Are you only allowed to see one person at a time?
I mean.. you as an individual or any individuals have the freedom to date more than one person at time freely.. i wouldn't say your allow to date only one person at a time.. You have the freedom of doing that.. But you need to be upfront and about in terms of your communication.. If she has a problem with it.. Then move on.. But I wouldn't say it's cheating. Cheating would be you as a man..giving your woman's ? away to another woman. That I would call cheating.. or have a mistress on the side.. -
Metal wit the knowledge. But like I said before, the disclaimer doesn't work. St least not for me. What about y'all
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darkone360 wrote: »C/s Chemix. I've given the "I'm not looking for a relationship" disclaimer to a couple of women I've met in beginning. They don't listen. B/c they feel they can change your mind. Then they wanna get mad you b/c you haven't budge on the commitment. I'be gotten the "I'm just wasting my time" speeches. Smh
my g, I hear that ? all the time. Me and my scorpio mami just recently hooked back up, somehow the convo ended with her saying that ? . She said that ? last time we were ? around, lol! The twilight zone yo...
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its not cheating... ? just have that perception, just let em know from the get go.
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Its only cheating if you give a ? about her and she aint just a ? dumpster
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man, i'm going thru this right now.
personally, i don't ask them what they're doing when we're not together. but i'm getting the feeling they think we're exclusive. -
@Chemix...bruh, I was catching hell from the white chick I was dealin wit CONSTANTLY! Lol! Guess that's over and done wit. This hefa has the logic that if you're single, then you should only date one person at a time.
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the funny thing is, most women STILL have a backup dude even while they're tryna get you to lock them down.
difference is, they dont call him 'til they know for sure you aint tryna cuff.
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darkone360 wrote: »@Chemix...bruh, I was catching hell from the white chick I was dealin wit CONSTANTLY! Lol! Guess that's over and done wit. This hefa has the logic that if you're single, then you should only date one person at a time.
lmfao! Yo, I ? up when I hear that logic and can't help but chuckle as I break down its stupidity. So, we dating, still remaining single, but since we're talking, we're not allowed to talk to anyone else? Lol! Does not compute. Women want all the options with the lowest down payment possible. -
And don't forget to throw in cant have sex wit anybody else except them, but barely give you any in the first place.
@ Loo....? you must've been checkin out the convo I had wit ole girl yesterday. Cuz I swear that's the same exact thing we were discussin. -
ItsKatBitches wrote: »I just assume that when you meet a man they have at least one other female they're dealing with, so there is a period of time where you're getting to know each other..you either want more, weed the other people out and make it official or you decide to move on..
So no, I don't think it's cheating.
do you think every single person in this world is constantly messing with multiple parties throughout their whole single life? sounds like a lot of effort and expenses to me tbh
