The "My daughter snitches on me reverse appreciation" thread......(This is for Men with daughters)

BelovedAfeni
BelovedAfeni Members Posts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
So what the fathers out here supposed to do when ya baby girl starts going thru ya pockets, phone and computer and "stumbles" upon that piff (messages from fit chicks with stripper bodies, condoms, viagra, etc.). She tells ya Lady, GF, Wife, Wisdom or if you are @Conflict....Life Partner

The worst part is if u seen the girl she is 12 years old and really quiet....always says "I Love You Dad" when she leaves, and always talks in whispers.
SMMFH

How yall keeping ya daughters in check, and does it work.
My friend wanted to hit her but I told him that isnt going to help anything, and he was wrong anyway.

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  • BelovedAfeni
    BelovedAfeni Members Posts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 2013
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Maybe at that point it's time to start being a man of integrity for your daughters sake..just a thought.

  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    Maybe at that point it's time to start being a man of integrity for your daughters sake..just a thought.

    ^^^^^ this
  • HafBayked
    HafBayked Members Posts: 16,248 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Maybe at that point it's time to start being a man of integrity for your daughters sake..just a thought.

    lol....every time i went to I.S.S. in high school the teacher made me write the definitions of the same list of like 30 words....over and over.....and every single time i got to "integrity" i would raise my hand and ask him what it meant, and he would bring me the dictionary....they probably have about 200 of those papers from me on file and on every last one of them "integrity" is blank lmao
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Bad ass.


    But seriously, ya'll may think that a daughter isn't affected by a father's philandering but you are molding the way she views men...trust me.
  • BelovedAfeni
    BelovedAfeni Members Posts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
    he got a lil careless
    but she seems like a good child/kid/youngin

  • illedout
    illedout Members Posts: 8,194 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Conflict wrote: »
    THIS ? @ME IN HIS OP WITH ? ? !!!!
    IN THE ? POWDER ROOM!!!

    THIS ? NEEDS TO BANNED

    LOL..
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I'm sure she is a good kid, but she's also only 12.

    I'm not saying his actions are going to have her on the pole, but it can and most likely will play a part in how she views men and relationships.

    Don't turn her into a man-hater...what are the odds that she'll believe that good men exist if her own daddy isn't a good man?

    IJS.

  • 2stepz_ahead
    2stepz_ahead Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 32,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    how about dude just sitting his daughter down and explaining to her that sometimes people makes mistakes and hes not perfect. and this is not what you do to handle problems. and to not trifle thru people pockets because it's an invasion of privacy. and to not be with someone you can't trust and need to look for sings of infidelity. and that all men are not like that. and how its important to find a man that internally happy and if she does her part they can have a great life.

    all that other ? is nonesense.
    infidelity like everything else only scars when the child is left to create their own definition.
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
  • nex gin
    nex gin Members Posts: 10,698 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kids in grown folks business?? smmfh
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
    All men are not like me honey..don't worry.


    What a great convo to have with your daughter.
  • 2stepz_ahead
    2stepz_ahead Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 32,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    All men are not like me honey..don't worry.


    What a great convo to have with your daughter.

    well if the daughter caught dad doing something wrong or found stripper pics...why would a man tell her anything different?

    if i was in that situation i would be honest but i refuse to say every man does the same because we all dont. and then i would be ? her mind up and the image of all men would be destroyed.

    at least that way she will have some sort of hope.

    all dudes aint bad dudes @mzgrahambitches
  • Kat
    Kat Members Posts: 50,667 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I know all men aren't bad dudes.

    You can explain and excuse some ? to a child all day long...it's the example that goes the furthest.

    You are the first MAN in her life, the first man she falls in love with..remember that and try your hardest not to break her heart.

    I'm an adult now, I understand how ? happens...at least do your best to keep her protected from adult business.

    T/S friend sounds a bit sloppy with his ? .
  • emrulz
    emrulz Members Posts: 133 ✭✭✭
    Wait...dude does dirt...gets caught in some fashion by his daughter...she tells mom...and he's mad at lil girl??

    That's just dumb.

    To answer the original question, I keep my daughter in check by trying my best to always do the right/responsible thing and providing a good example of what a good man should look like. Don't have to "explain" as much when there's not much to explain.
  • 2stepz_ahead
    2stepz_ahead Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 32,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    some of you people in here are not living in a real world.

    this is real life...an things happens.....yes i am an example and first example of a man...i need to be on my best behavior but i also need to admit to my mistakes and no mater how much you try to be the best you can be its always something that slips thru.

    just because you dont cheat dont mean you aint do ? that needs explaining.

    you can get caught calling a female a ? or saying she got a fat ass or talking about some damn ? .

    you need to have conversations with your kids no matter what.

    my daughter knows i fukk up but i talk to her also and tell her im not perfect and that i dont expect her to be perfect.

    now while an example may go far, a talk about life goes even futher because they are hearing it directly from you.
  • emrulz
    emrulz Members Posts: 133 ✭✭✭
    Yea, things happen but my daughter catching me cheating on mom isn't one of them. Finding stripper pics on my phone, a random female's phone #, catching me hitting her mom aren't things that she'd just happen to catch me doing.

    I don't have to talk to her to make sure she keeps hope, I show her that she has reason to keep hope.

    It's not inevitable that everyone is going to screw up in a major way. She knows I'm far from perfect, but she also knows that my mistakes aren't tragic, family-ruining mistakes.
  • Sicky Mouse
    Sicky Mouse Members Posts: 470 ✭✭✭✭
    why is yo daughter looking through your phone? school her on staying out of peoples business or stop cheating b. /thread
  • VIKINGSALLDAY
    VIKINGSALLDAY Members Posts: 128 ✭✭✭
    emrulz wrote: »
    Wait...dude does dirt...gets caught in some fashion by his daughter...she tells mom...and he's mad at lil girl??

    That's just dumb.

    To answer the original question, I keep my daughter in check by trying my best to always do the right/responsible thing and providing a good example of what a good man should look like. Don't have to "explain" as much when there's not much to explain.

    ^
    What he said.
  • S2J
    S2J Members Posts: 28,458 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 2013
    Everyone's giving you the hard route, which is 'dont do it', be an example for her, blah blah blah They're all right but be honest with yourself, thats a long-term fight that you may not hve the luxury on waiting for yourself to change.

    How bout you try the easier route: Just dont get caught! Lol Like wtf...Its 2014, CPUs, laptops, and phones can all be password protected. How is a 12 yr old outsmartin you??
  • Trollio
    Trollio Members Posts: 25,815 ✭✭✭✭✭
    u bring yo hoes around yo daughter?
  • BelovedAfeni
    BelovedAfeni Members Posts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
    wasnt me
    son for the win