Was I wrong for shattering my Pops dream on his 66th Bday…..
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I planned a surprise Bday Dinner for my Pops…..
And my Mom took all the credit.
A little bit of a long read!!!
My Mom calls me about a week before my Dads birthday and says…..What are YOU doing for your fathers birthday? (Strike One) So I told her let's do a surprise dinner for him. So I do all the planning and give her the information of how I want things set up. I make the reservations and the only thing she does is call some of their friends and invite them.
Two days before the surprise she calls me to ask if I'm buying the cake. (Strike Two) And I'm like why can't you do it? She starts making all types of excuses in regards to time and money. (I'm thinking to myself this is your husband the least you could do is buy the mans cake!!) So I'm just like ok ok no cake then just to hear what she says!! She just says ok. (Strike Three) So I tell her I'll see if I can get it.
So she hits me the day of and was like I ordered the cake but I can't pick it up because I don't want your father to know what's going on. (Mind you I live 2.5 hours away). So I'm like cool, I'll pick it up when I get in town. So I asked her if she paid for it and what's the ticket number. She was like I didn't pay for it, when you go there just tell them his name. So I'm SMH! (Strike Four)
When I get in town I pick up the cake go to the restaurant and I set up the balloons and make sure everything is good. When they arrive my father is elated!!! He was genuinely surprised!! So then Mom starts her speech on how she put everything together and how much work it was. (Strike Five) My husband and I are looking at her like for real! Not once did she mention "WE". It was all her.
What hurt the most was that my mother and father have been married well over 35 years and my father said that this was his very first time having a surprise on his birthday since he's lived in America! Pops has been in the states for more than 45 years. That hurt me because he was so proud that my mom "did" this for him. The whole time my Mom is not even paying my Dad any attention. She's so busy making sure the guest are at awwweeee of what she did for her husband she basically neglects him.
EVERYBODY that came gave my father a gift except his wife.
When my Mom went to ? guest out the restaurant I ended up telling my Dad that I was the one who planned everything. He was disappointed!
Was I wrong for shattering my Dads dream?
Tell a situation where you did something and someone else took credit and it ? you off!
And my Mom took all the credit.
A little bit of a long read!!!
My Mom calls me about a week before my Dads birthday and says…..What are YOU doing for your fathers birthday? (Strike One) So I told her let's do a surprise dinner for him. So I do all the planning and give her the information of how I want things set up. I make the reservations and the only thing she does is call some of their friends and invite them.
Two days before the surprise she calls me to ask if I'm buying the cake. (Strike Two) And I'm like why can't you do it? She starts making all types of excuses in regards to time and money. (I'm thinking to myself this is your husband the least you could do is buy the mans cake!!) So I'm just like ok ok no cake then just to hear what she says!! She just says ok. (Strike Three) So I tell her I'll see if I can get it.
So she hits me the day of and was like I ordered the cake but I can't pick it up because I don't want your father to know what's going on. (Mind you I live 2.5 hours away). So I'm like cool, I'll pick it up when I get in town. So I asked her if she paid for it and what's the ticket number. She was like I didn't pay for it, when you go there just tell them his name. So I'm SMH! (Strike Four)
When I get in town I pick up the cake go to the restaurant and I set up the balloons and make sure everything is good. When they arrive my father is elated!!! He was genuinely surprised!! So then Mom starts her speech on how she put everything together and how much work it was. (Strike Five) My husband and I are looking at her like for real! Not once did she mention "WE". It was all her.
What hurt the most was that my mother and father have been married well over 35 years and my father said that this was his very first time having a surprise on his birthday since he's lived in America! Pops has been in the states for more than 45 years. That hurt me because he was so proud that my mom "did" this for him. The whole time my Mom is not even paying my Dad any attention. She's so busy making sure the guest are at awwweeee of what she did for her husband she basically neglects him.
EVERYBODY that came gave my father a gift except his wife.
When my Mom went to ? guest out the restaurant I ended up telling my Dad that I was the one who planned everything. He was disappointed!
Was I wrong for shattering my Dads dream?
Tell a situation where you did something and someone else took credit and it ? you off!
I put together a surprise birthday dinner for my Pops 66th Bday….. 53 votes
Yes
41%
22 votes
No
58%
31 votes
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Nogood answer!
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NoI voted no because I assumed the question was “ did you read all that ? ?"
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Noi feel you copper
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YesI VOTED YES CAUSE u WAS WRONG FOR TELLIN YO POPS.. LET HIM HAVE THAT JOY.. BUT U SHOULDA PULLED YO MAMA 2 THE SIDE AND LET HER HAVE IT
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A wise man once said
"All I Want For My Birthday Is A Big ? ? "
Hope that helps in any way possible -
YesYea you were wrong for pulling him aside and telling him, you shouldve said it infront of everybody.
"You mean WE set it up" -
oh and it sounds like ya moms aint ?
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NoYea you were wrong for pulling him aside and telling him, you shouldve said it infront of everybody.
"You mean WE set it up"
I didn't want to embarrass her. -
NoYo moms ain't ? ...you better get a DNA test you might not be his
And yeah you ? up for shattering his dreams
And ain't no strike 4 and 5 in baseball... smh females -
NoINCREDIBLE_DRO wrote: »I VOTED YES CAUSE u WAS WRONG FOR TELLIN YO POPS.. LET HIM HAVE THAT JOY.. BUT U SHOULDA PULLED YO MAMA 2 THE SIDE AND LET HER HAVE IT
But my Pops is my best friend and I felt it was foul of my Mom!! -
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But you aint mind crushing pops spirit? -
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But you aint mind crushing pops spirit? -
YesI dont see how sayin "we" would embarrass her. If you were to say "I did all the work" then thats different.
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NoYo moms ain't ? ...you better get a DNA test you might not be his
And yeah you ? up for shattering his dreams
And ain't no strike 4 and 5 in baseball... smh females
So we playing ball now? -
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My Pops and I are super close. He confides in me and I confide in him…..so I wanted to keep the embarrassment between my Dad, husband, and myself! -
NoI dont see how sayin "we" would embarrass her. If you were to say "I did all the work" then thats different.
If you knew the type of person my Mom is then you would understand. -
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YesSpeaking up and sayin "we", wouldnt have crushed him. Nothing wrong with getting your daughter to help put together a party. But pulling him to the side and telling him his wife lied is ? up.
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NoSpeaking up and sayin "we", wouldnt have crushed him. Nothing wrong with getting your daughter to help put together a party. But pulling him to the side and telling him his wife lied is ? up.
So it's cool that my Mom lied and I'm wrong for telling the truth? Oh ok -
NoYa' pops shouldn't be disappointed (with you anyway).
It's better that he know the truth.
Ya' moms foul BTW. -
YesThat would have ? me off too but I think you should have let it go and made it a point to establish up front what your role is on his next birthday.
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NoYa' pops shouldn't be disappointed (with you anyway).
It's better that he know the truth.
Ya' moms foul BTW.
That's the thing…My Pops knows my Mom is selfish. So it was a shock to him that she even would fathom doing something like this.
He was more shocked at the fact that he actually thought she did this herself! -
Yes
I said you shouldve spoke up right when she said that, and said " you mean we" , that wouldve been that. Now there's a lie floating around, and you know he's gonna bring it up to her. So either way you gonna have to hear her mouth. Best thing to do is always keep things in the open. -
NoYou weren't technically wrong for being upset. But maybe the truth could have come out differently. @INCREDIBLE_DRO hit it on the head. It was his birthday and maybe you should have just left it up to moms to tell the truth. I would have talked to her and told her how it made u feel. If she understood ur issue, she may have been willing to tell him the truth in private.
Matthew 18:15-17 - Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother
Colossians 3:13 - Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also [do] ye. -
Noobnoxiouslyfresh wrote: »That would have ? me off too but I think you should have let it go and made it a point to establish up front what your role is on his next birthday.
Ain't gone be no next b-day with her and I!
