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Can feminists and strong black women really have a successful heterosexual relationship?

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  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    @skpjr78‌ black women/feminists/birds are one in the same in your mind or nah?

    Not [email protected] but the fact still stands that there is a large percentage of black women that u just cant make happy. These broads were damaged somewhere along the way and they etxpect every man to either A) deal w/their bullshit or B) fix problems they didnt create. Its hard enough out here just waking up black in Amerikkka. Then u got a brother who gets up everyday trying to do the right thing and provide for the family and you come home to some cackling ass bitch who wants you to be a stereotype so she can validate her men are dogs ass mentality. Fuck all that. Brothers are getting of that bullshit.

    The % of damaged ass sisters is at pandemic levels. If u r expecting ur man to fix issues that were caused by some dude 20 years ago that ur man never met while simultaneously claiming to be an independent feminist who doesnt need a man u r a confused damaged ass bitch that needs to getfixed b4 trying to build something w/someone else. A dude thats about his business will only deal w/bullshit for so long. And then when the guy finally realizes just how fucked the bitch is and drops her ass that just feeds into these damaged hoes fucked up mentalites. These hoes wantto be mistreated b/c thats the only thing they understand. Treating these broads right just confuses them and they revert back to the only thing they know which is brothers aint shit and men are dogs. So the baggage piles up and then u throw an uneducateddumb bitches view of feminism on top of that and the vicious downward cycle continues.

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    I'll get back to you after I have my red bull.

    U finished that red bull yet @westie? Im still waiting for u to tell me how Im wrong for exposing the inconsistency of a baggage carrying woman who wants her man to deal with/fix her issues while simultaneously playing the role of the independent strong feminist who doesn't need a man. How can one woman have both mentalites at the same time?????
    Number one you're not exposing anything that I haven't heard A million times, so your thought isn't original. Let's make that clear.

    secondly I'm kind of debating on whether I want to broach the issue of black men versus black womenn. I'm not feeling it. I love black men and I'm not gonna paint you all under one broad stroke.

    I know a lot of multifaceted black men and I'm sorry you haven't had that experience of black women. I'm glad I have. I've also had multiple experiences with damaged white/other women, which a lot of you niggas seem to forget. people are people and a lot of them have been hurt and a lot of them have been damaged. What is different about black women is that not only are they shit on by other races, they get shit on by their own race I.E.you. It's fucking tiring and exhausting. give yourself a high-five for being one of these niggas.

    You need to expand your social circle. Also just as a note we attract what we are. So if you're attracting ain't shit black women you might want to take a fucking look in the mirror.

    i think the black woman part comes in because its more black chicks braggin about being independent and strong. i have yet to run into a white or latina woman who says this.

    that is because it is expected of them once you become an adult. again its nothing to brag about or be congratulated about because you have a job, and pay your bills.

    but i do agree with the bolded.....i had to get my shit together once i took my look.

    Let's be clear, issues black people - men and women- have in general are very different of those than white and Latino people. I don't want to get into this bullshit, I really don't. I don't want to talk about Black men being incarcerated, I don't want to talk about black women being single mothers, the crack epidemic, the war on drugs, slavery, I don't want to talk about any of that shit. there's reasons behind all of this shit.

    And black men Saying most black women ain't shit because of *insert bullshit here* is not helpful. Neither is black women doing the same, it's not productive. It's all so many generalizations, and reasons behind every fucking stereotype you can think of. they don't fall from the sky and they're not created by magical ghetto ratchet fairy dust.

    You have my respect madame
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    Westie
  • desertrain10desertrain10 Posts: 4,829 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    @skpjr78‌ black women/feminists/birds are one in the same in your mind or nah?

    Not [email protected] but the fact still stands that there is a large percentage of black women that u just cant make happy. These broads were damaged somewhere along the way and they etxpect every man to either A) deal w/their bullshit or B) fix problems they didnt create. Its hard enough out here just waking up black in Amerikkka. Then u got a brother who gets up everyday trying to do the right thing and provide for the family and you come home to some cackling ass bitch who wants you to be a stereotype so she can validate her men are dogs ass mentality. Fuck all that. Brothers are getting of that bullshit.

    The % of damaged ass sisters is at pandemic levels. If u r expecting ur man to fix issues that were caused by some dude 20 years ago that ur man never met while simultaneously claiming to be an independent feminist who doesnt need a man u r a confused damaged ass bitch that needs to getfixed b4 trying to build something w/someone else. A dude thats about his business will only deal w/bullshit for so long. And then when the guy finally realizes just how fucked the bitch is and drops her ass that just feeds into these damaged hoes fucked up mentalites. These hoes wantto be mistreated b/c thats the only thing they understand. Treating these broads right just confuses them and they revert back to the only thing they know which is brothers aint shit and men are dogs. So the baggage piles up and then u throw an uneducateddumb bitches view of feminism on top of that and the vicious downward cycle continues.

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    I'll get back to you after I have my red bull.

    U finished that red bull yet @westie? Im still waiting for u to tell me how Im wrong for exposing the inconsistency of a baggage carrying woman who wants her man to deal with/fix her issues while simultaneously playing the role of the independent strong feminist who doesn't need a man. How can one woman have both mentalites at the same time?????

    Its a psychological reaction imo. Most of them have seen their respective moms being humiliated, beaten. But they were too small to help.
    And it can be very stressfull painfull mentally.

    So, in order to avenge momy, they take the indy women / super feminist route during their teenage time. However it is just a temporary mindset set by the mind in order to apease these girls.

    Then comes the time when nature is setting these women' physiology so they fall in love with a man. They face a dilemma : how can i be attracted to the gender i ve been shitted on for years at Starbuck? How come i like his demeanor his smile? How come im aroused? HOW CAN I COMBINE HOW I FEEL WITH HOW I THINK ?

    Just an opinion.
    Are we all pretending we have psychology degrees? Can I delve into why some men feel their manhood is threatened by a "strong" woman?

    do it lol....
    Westie
  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,479 ✭✭✭✭✭
    pralims wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    skpjr78 wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    @skpjr78‌ black women/feminists/birds are one in the same in your mind or nah?

    Not [email protected] but the fact still stands that there is a large percentage of black women that u just cant make happy. These broads were damaged somewhere along the way and they etxpect every man to either A) deal w/their bullshit or B) fix problems they didnt create. Its hard enough out here just waking up black in Amerikkka. Then u got a brother who gets up everyday trying to do the right thing and provide for the family and you come home to some cackling ass bitch who wants you to be a stereotype so she can validate her men are dogs ass mentality. Fuck all that. Brothers are getting of that bullshit.

    The % of damaged ass sisters is at pandemic levels. If u r expecting ur man to fix issues that were caused by some dude 20 years ago that ur man never met while simultaneously claiming to be an independent feminist who doesnt need a man u r a confused damaged ass bitch that needs to getfixed b4 trying to build something w/someone else. A dude thats about his business will only deal w/bullshit for so long. And then when the guy finally realizes just how fucked the bitch is and drops her ass that just feeds into these damaged hoes fucked up mentalites. These hoes wantto be mistreated b/c thats the only thing they understand. Treating these broads right just confuses them and they revert back to the only thing they know which is brothers aint shit and men are dogs. So the baggage piles up and then u throw an uneducateddumb bitches view of feminism on top of that and the vicious downward cycle continues.

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    I'll get back to you after I have my red bull.

    U finished that red bull yet @westie? Im still waiting for u to tell me how Im wrong for exposing the inconsistency of a baggage carrying woman who wants her man to deal with/fix her issues while simultaneously playing the role of the independent strong feminist who doesn't need a man. How can one woman have both mentalites at the same time?????

    Its a psychological reaction imo. Most of them have seen their respective moms being humiliated, beaten. But they were too small to help.
    And it can be very stressfull painfull mentally.

    So, in order to avenge momy, they take the indy women / super feminist route during their teenage time. However it is just a temporary mindset set by the mind in order to apease these girls.

    Then comes the time when nature is setting these women' physiology so they fall in love with a man. They face a dilemma : how can i be attracted to the gender i ve been shitted on for years at Starbuck? How come i like his demeanor his smile? How come im aroused? HOW CAN I COMBINE HOW I FEEL WITH HOW I THINK ?

    Just an opinion.
    Are we all pretending we have psychology degrees? Can I delve into why some men feel their manhood is threatened by a "strong" woman?

    but what is a strong woman?

    are you talking about the women who have men who are less than them and constantly remind them?

    or the men who cant take that his woman is now making more than him?

    why would strong need to be added to her name and introduction like its a degree?

    In my opinion a strong women embodies a lot of things and there's not one single definition. Feminism really has nothing to do with being strong. I was simply responding to someone breaking down the mentality of a stereotype that's why strong was in quotations.

    I don't think a man who is with a feminist is a bitch. Different people like different things. Even a man who likes being beaten down by A misandrist isn't necessarily a bitch. He could just have a fetish dominatrix type shit. Who am I to judge?… I mean I will, but I shouldn't.
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,479 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?

    That's a very complex answer lol
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  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?

    That's a very complex answer lol

    Thats why an interview is needed. The IC need to discover that a black woman like you exists. By giving your colors i could paint a face a model that could inspire a lot of young female lurkers ...

    You owe this to your community imo
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,479 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?

    That's a very complex answer lol

    Thats why an interview is needed. The IC need to discover that a black woman like you exists. By giving your colors i could paint a face a model that could inspire a lot of young female lurkers ...

    You owe this to your community imo

    Nope
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  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?

    That's a very complex answer lol

    Thats why an interview is needed. The IC need to discover that a black woman like you exists. By giving your colors i could paint a face a model that could inspire a lot of young female lurkers ...

    You owe this to your community imo

    Nope

    At least give us some author that have inspired your way of thinking.
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  • BEAMBEAM Posts: 2,560 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 2014
    Well, the domestic sphere is certainly not the same as the philosophical sphere, and the domestic sphere is where the philosophy meets the pavement.

    I'll level with you. The understanding that men have of feminism is akin to the small section devoted to Black history in public school systems, so I am aware of why you may not be able to appreciate it beyond "women want to be equal." It's far more complex. I don't think anyone means equal in every way, as I can obviously not carry a mattress. But for the sake of this conversation and since we are talking about relationships, I take that to mean that as long as both of you feel valued, and that your contributions to the relationship are close to equal and significant, then those are the inner workings of feminist principles. On the surface, I have a very meat-and-potatoes, macho sorta guy, but he is also very reflective and very much a thinker. We both examine, on our own terms, and acknowledge how gender manifests itself in how we operate, but that does not mean we're willing to negotiate EVERY major detail of our lives down to who is responsible for dinner. He does not know how to boil a hotdog. I am not any less down for the cause because I say I'll handle it.

    The domestic sphere is extremely malleable. The complications ( or differences, rather ) you're alluding to exist because of the notions and opinions people have, not because of any innate or inevitable circumstances that make exercising any sort theory regarding equality impossible. Human error, if you will, however complimentary..

    It boils down to what you said earlier, that you won't deal with snow. That is a decision, babe; A decision that is a result of a mindset other than what you're claiming feminism to be.

    What many struggle with beyond blatant misogyny and/or sexism, seemingly anyway, is that feminism seems to be a platform that is used to announce the benefits women should also enjoy in addition to the ones they already do, with no real conversation about relinquishing the foundations that enable them to, for instance, refuse to shovel snow.

    In all honesty, your s/o is a proponent of that, not feminism.

    And you know me OB, this is more a talking point than a rebuttal. I support you being free to enjoy any relationship you wish, and I'm the type of guy that would make that all the easier for you. But unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be a clear definition of what feminism is simply because it's exercises in so many different ways, many of which contradict one another; And whatever is there certainly isn't apparent or explicit enough to attach any sort of "movement" or "social phenomenon" to..

    Yes, I've read all about feminism, btw.
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  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @‌westie how many black female friends that think like you do you have?
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  • obnoxiouslyfreshobnoxiouslyfresh Still Ginny From The Block Posts: 11,495 ✭✭✭✭✭
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    Lol

    @pralims‌

    After reading some of ur posts you were better off asking the question: what type of man would want to be in a relationship with a feminist?

    might be the next thread....lol

    Lol

    the very woman who inspired this thread is by all signs happily married

    So obviously it is very possible for a feminist, strong blk wm to have a successful relationship

    Obfresh offered proof and my relationship is living proof as well

    Not to mention there are men who self identify as feminist

    /thread

    ob is not a feminist and the author needed a weaker man.

    so maybe i should rename the thread to can a feminist be in a relationship with a nigga that aint a bitch




    @pralims Have you read anything on this? I'm not being funny, but you are speaking as an authority, yet coming off like you were taught the School House Rock version of this or some shit. It's okay to admit that you may have either minimal understanding of a cultural phenomenon or that the understanding that you do have as gathered through television. But don't be lazy and make assumptions without the slightest bit of research. Be humble. Be teachable.

    sweety i am very teachable. but i am very inquisitive also. i don't take anything at just word value. i am speaking from an article from someone who says they are a feminist who felt like she was being bought.
    I am speaking from the hundred of women i ran into and continue to run into with the mindframe you are saying doesnt exist.

    you are saying be teachable, why don't you try talking to your male family members and ask them the type chicks they run into.

    i can introduce you to plenty of chicks that would read your posts and call you weak and a poor excuse for a woman for thinking the way you do. i can also hear guys saying they would love a woman who can compromise.

    you are on one end of the rainbow while i am speaking about the other end.

    you are in a relationship that is working but how does your view work in that? i still dont see it.

    you seems like a good chick that is ok with balance but not having everything equal depending on what it is. am I right?

    so what am i not being teachable about?



    Well, you seem to be holding strong to the idea that handling the bulk of cleaning and washing dishes and being a feminist is mutually exclusive. That to me just says that you have had limited exposure to this topic. I'm certain that there are women who would say that I am weak. They too, like many, have a very surface understanding and probably couldn't tell you shit beyond equal pay, abortion, and the vagina monologues. When people say you cant be a feminist and perform any task resembling a traditional role, I shut up and just listen because fools will reveal themselves. I am telling you to be teachable because I would bet my next paycheck that you have never read a single book on gender equality. I'm not a false flagger and more importantly, I am very vocal about areas where my knowledge is not extensive. Are you insistent on assuming that I am not something that you cannot adequately define, or are you willing to admit that it doesn't profit me much to be having this exchange with you about something I identify as if I didn't know the ins and outs. It would be similar to if I argued with you about child support or sports or some shit. I would be more willing to just listen because you are intimately familiar in ways that I am not.

    Angel out of heaven, such a goddess, have a nigga praying [-O<
  • deadeyedeadeye Walmart Warrior Kat's buttPosts: 22,881 ✭✭✭✭✭
    pralims wrote: »
    jono wrote: »
    You know what?

    I'll ignore the example and instead talk in general...the answer is yes.

    I don't know what makes you believe that a feminist cannot have a successful heterosexual relationship but it's just like everything else: eventually you will meet someone who beat fits your personality and lifestyle.

    I guess you mean a misandrist...but once again y'all show that you don't know the difference so I guess this argument is once again not for me to engage in.

    As always, you come through as the objective, non-myopic male on these things. I appreciate you. >:D<

    Some fools on here will erroneously try to yoke 'feminist' and 'misandrist' together. Such small minds. Same ones in each and every anti-feminist thread on here, too. They're beyond pathetic.



    youre too pretty to be angry. your lips are made to make your smile more beautiful and not deliver such angry words.


    I believe that's an example of benevolent sexism.
    deadeye
    So, you're mad because I quoted a post.....that included a scantily clad pic of you......that you sent to another man.....while both of you are supposed to be in committed relationships with other people?

    Hilarious.
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    MsSouthern
    just messy ...smh
    June 12



    deadeye
    You can call me messy, but you can't say I was lying about anything I said.
    June 12 Delete


    MzGrahamBitches
    gtfoff my page and mind your fucking business old man.


    Oh wait, you have no business which is why you stalk various females on the internet tryibg to interject yourself into their business.

    Fuck off.
    June 12


    deadeye
    Most of your business is public knowledge Kathryn.

    You should learn to exercise more discretion.

    You're too old to continuously find yourself in compromising situations.

    I'm extremely disappointed in your behavior and expect much better of you in the future.

    With compassion, concern, sincerity, and due diligence.
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    MzGrahamBitches
    I hope you die of old age tonight.
    June 12

    deadeye
    That's a horrible thing to say.

    I'm sorry you feel that way Kathryn.

    However, I've never heard of anyone dying of old age at 43.

    My words must've really hit home for you to want me to die tonight.

    I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.

    Instead of wishing me death, your time would be better served reflecting on your past transgressions and thinking about what steps you can take to improve yourself.
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    Dirty Sanchez
    kat caught feelings
    June 12

    deadeye
    Indeed she did.

    Definitely not your usual white woman.
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    MzGrahamBitches
    Titanagraphs but I caught feelings..ok.

    Type me another one pops.
    June 12


    deadeye
    You wished death upon me Kathryn.

    Solely because I quoted a post which featured you in a bathrobe with your privates partially exposed.

    A pic that would have never been publicly accessible had it not been for your carelessness and bad judgement.

    Essentially, you want me to die for your mistakes.

    Smarten up Kathryn.

    If anyone caught feelings it's you.

    This is just entertainment for me.
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    @deadeye nah mate, fuck off, I literally hate seeing your name in my notifications because I know it's your FUCKING LIST. I'm tired of being @'d to some thread because of your shitty list, makes me just want to punch you in your fat fucking face.

    You're a digrace to creepset and 'mature' black men the world over.

    Fuck your entire existence.


    You are a plain idiot. Since you cannot give birth nor have a proper sense of enduring and suffering you cannot understand my post.

    @Westie has put her life on the line several times to give life. I wish I had an ounce of that courage, endurance and resiliance.

    Peace
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  • desertrain10desertrain10 Posts: 4,829 ✭✭✭✭✭
    deadeye wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    jono wrote: »
    You know what?

    I'll ignore the example and instead talk in general...the answer is yes.

    I don't know what makes you believe that a feminist cannot have a successful heterosexual relationship but it's just like everything else: eventually you will meet someone who beat fits your personality and lifestyle.

    I guess you mean a misandrist...but once again y'all show that you don't know the difference so I guess this argument is once again not for me to engage in.

    As always, you come through as the objective, non-myopic male on these things. I appreciate you. >:D<

    Some fools on here will erroneously try to yoke 'feminist' and 'misandrist' together. Such small minds. Same ones in each and every anti-feminist thread on here, too. They're beyond pathetic.



    youre too pretty to be angry. your lips are made to make your smile more beautiful and not deliver such angry words.


    I believe that's an example of benevolent sexism.

    you're learning

    ladies our efforts have not gone in vain
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  • DarcSkiesDarcSkies TRUST IN ALLAH BUT TIE UP YOUR CAMEL Posts: 13,791 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I think people are confusing "feminist" with "cunt"
    I think you don't know what a synonym is lol
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  • Jabu_RuleJabu_Rule Posts: 5,993 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 2014
    I dated a self proclaimed feminist of the current wave (she said there were many) that believes that a women should be able to get an abortion at any point that it the baby is in her belly because it's her body period (3 weeks or 8 months doesn't matter). Thoughts on that?
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  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 2014
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    Lol

    @pralims‌

    After reading some of ur posts you were better off asking the question: what type of man would want to be in a relationship with a feminist?

    might be the next thread....lol

    Lol

    the very woman who inspired this thread is by all signs happily married

    So obviously it is very possible for a feminist, strong blk wm to have a successful relationship

    Obfresh offered proof and my relationship is living proof as well

    Not to mention there are men who self identify as feminist

    /thread

    ob is not a feminist and the author needed a weaker man.

    so maybe i should rename the thread to can a feminist be in a relationship with a nigga that aint a bitch




    @pralims Have you read anything on this? I'm not being funny, but you are speaking as an authority, yet coming off like you were taught the School House Rock version of this or some shit. It's okay to admit that you may have either minimal understanding of a cultural phenomenon or that the understanding that you do have as gathered through television. But don't be lazy and make assumptions without the slightest bit of research. Be humble. Be teachable.

    sweety i am very teachable. but i am very inquisitive also. i don't take anything at just word value. i am speaking from an article from someone who says they are a feminist who felt like she was being bought.
    I am speaking from the hundred of women i ran into and continue to run into with the mindframe you are saying doesnt exist.

    you are saying be teachable, why don't you try talking to your male family members and ask them the type chicks they run into.

    i can introduce you to plenty of chicks that would read your posts and call you weak and a poor excuse for a woman for thinking the way you do. i can also hear guys saying they would love a woman who can compromise.

    you are on one end of the rainbow while i am speaking about the other end.

    you are in a relationship that is working but how does your view work in that? i still dont see it.

    you seems like a good chick that is ok with balance but not having everything equal depending on what it is. am I right?

    so what am i not being teachable about?



    Well, you seem to be holding strong to the idea that handling the bulk of cleaning and washing dishes and being a feminist is mutually exclusive. That to me just says that you have had limited exposure to this topic. I'm certain that there are women who would say that I am weak. They too, like many, have a very surface understanding and probably couldn't tell you shit beyond equal pay, abortion, and the vagina monologues. When people say you cant be a feminist and perform any task resembling a traditional role, I shut up and just listen because fools will reveal themselves. I am telling you to be teachable because I would bet my next paycheck that you have never read a single book on gender equality. I'm not a false flagger and more importantly, I am very vocal about areas where my knowledge is not extensive. Are you insistent on assuming that I am not something that you cannot adequately define, or are you willing to admit that it doesn't profit me much to be having this exchange with you about something I identify as if I didn't know the ins and outs. It would be similar to if I argued with you about child support or sports or some shit. I would be more willing to just listen because you are intimately familiar in ways that I am not.

    OK...so teach me what it is.

    I'm all ears.

    Also, I have not read a book about. you are right. but I have been reading about it for years.

    so again. teach me.

    what is a feminist?
    why are you a feminist?
    why does it have to profit you to educate someone that you are claiming knows nothing?
    you would profit from knowing you educated someone. is that not enough.

    so teach me.
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,479 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    Westie wrote: »
    @Westie‌ what has lead you to this mindstate?

    That's a very complex answer lol

    Thats why an interview is needed. The IC need to discover that a black woman like you exists. By giving your colors i could paint a face a model that could inspire a lot of young female lurkers ...

    You owe this to your community imo

    Nope

    At least give us some author that have inspired your way of thinking.
    Honestly don't have one.
    @‌westie how many black female friends that think like you do you have?

    Not a one.
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  • Rasta.Rasta. Mt. ZionPosts: 9,342 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Wow! On a Sunday at that
  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    FuriousOne wrote: »
    I dated a self proclaimed feminist of the current wave (she said there were many) that believes that a women should be able to get an abortion at any point that it the baby is in her belly because it's her body period (3 weeks or 8 months doesn't matter). Thoughts on that?

    Crazie woman that thinks that anarchy and irresponsibility are the best form of liberty.
    Wear a condom G
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  • Jabu_RuleJabu_Rule Posts: 5,993 ✭✭✭✭✭
    FuriousOne wrote: »
    I dated a self proclaimed feminist of the current wave (she said there were many) that believes that a women should be able to get an abortion at any point that it the baby is in her belly because it's her body period (3 weeks or 8 months doesn't matter). Thoughts on that?

    Crazie woman that thinks that anarchy and irresponsibility are the best form of liberty.
    Wear a condom G

    I dodged that like the Matrix. She would have bodied that seed anyway.
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  • BEAMBEAM Posts: 2,560 ✭✭✭✭✭
    FuriousOne wrote: »
    I dated a self proclaimed feminist of the current wave (she said there were many) that believes that a women should be able to get an abortion at any point that it the baby is in her belly because it's her body period (3 weeks or 8 months doesn't matter). Thoughts on that?

    Pregnancy isn't an autonomous phenomenon, and I'm not saying that to say women shouldn't have a say in how it all goes down; More so that the guy involved shouldn't have no say..
  • desertrain10desertrain10 Posts: 4,829 ✭✭✭✭✭
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    pralims wrote: »
    Lol

    @pralims‌

    After reading some of ur posts you were better off asking the question: what type of man would want to be in a relationship with a feminist?

    might be the next thread....lol

    Lol

    the very woman who inspired this thread is by all signs happily married

    So obviously it is very possible for a feminist, strong blk wm to have a successful relationship

    Obfresh offered proof and my relationship is living proof as well

    Not to mention there are men who self identify as feminist

    /thread

    ob is not a feminist and the author needed a weaker man.

    so maybe i should rename the thread to can a feminist be in a relationship with a nigga that aint a bitch

    so a "nigga" that has no problem with his woman knowing her worth, rather have her own money, and doesnt mind paying for dinner is a "bitch""?

    thats what you got from what you quoted?
    i am talking about the dude and the author thinking a lessor man is the better man because he didnt make her feel bought.

    a woman can know her worth and still be wined and dined. thats actually a man taking his time and showing respect and respecting her worth. if the dude came right out an said...im trying to pay for pussy...then she has a point. but he didnt. he showed her something she could not do for herself an she felt intimidated and called him a sugardaddy.

    you see nothing wrong with that?
    heres an idea....
    rather than come at my neck maybe you should come at the neck of the women who call themselves feminist while doing radical shit and giving the real feminists a bad name.

    Like others have said the woman in question sees no harm in being wined and dined every now and than. She just didnt like the way tom the man who was doing the wining and dining made her feel like she was something to be brought

    Tom also hinted that he didnt necessarily want her to continue working if things were to progress...which disturbed her considering her work was her passion and provided her the financial freedom to do as she pleased

    she also stresses she sees no problem with one spouse financially supporting another...so obviously its not an issue of not wanting a man of equal standings or who makes more money

    Not to mention her current husband is a doctor if im not mistaken and successful in his own right

    From what i gather this has less to do with her feminist sensibilities and more to do with what tom choose not to do

    Had he put forth more an effort to impress her with his charm and intellect rather than his bank account he may have had an chance. no better yet had he had considered how he was making her feel rather than doing things his way we wouldn't even be having this discussion

    With that said, i cant see why any man would run from a such a woman...or why her husband has to be a bitch



    @pralims ....
  • LEMZIMUS_RAMSEYLEMZIMUS_RAMSEY SHAPE YOUR REALITY INSIDE WHICH YOU THRIVE Posts: 17,670 ✭✭✭✭✭
    FuriousOne wrote: »
    FuriousOne wrote: »
    I dated a self proclaimed feminist of the current wave (she said there were many) that believes that a women should be able to get an abortion at any point that it the baby is in her belly because it's her body period (3 weeks or 8 months doesn't matter). Thoughts on that?

    Crazie woman that thinks that anarchy and irresponsibility are the best form of liberty.
    Wear a condom G

    I dodged that like the Matrix. She would have bodied that seed anyway.

    Fa sure
    That women would have waited until 8 months to abort just to show you that she decides and is independant... smh
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