Light-skinned black woman: It is hard to be friends with darker black women
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A Talented One wrote: »This is the writer:
This is damn near white??? -
Yo... im trying to get pregnant by @shizlansky so we can produce more lightskin and darkskin babies to heal the nation.
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Shizlansky wrote: »Women are haters at the core. No denying that.
Yall go thru more friends like socks
Yall be like that's why I got more men friends then women.
Women are haters and my opinion will never change.
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Lol @ nggas sayin pass
You aint gotta lie to kick it my nggaaaa lls
Mmm! All in her confused awkward ? guts
Oh I see... the other pic had her darker -
She slightly reminds of Kat in the top pic
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She looks like Miles Austin.
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Beech Oss Neega wrote: »I swear I only hear this type of ? narrative from light skinned women. Some have this elitest attitude and swear that all eyes are on them at all times....the funny part about it though is it's usually the less attractive ones that perpetuate this ? . Never hear any dark chick's commenting on somebody's light skinnedness.
Really?
U've never heard of dark skinned women complaining about lighter skinned womenLightskin & darkskin women can be frwends!
U aren't dark skinned, chuck
These dudes have incorrect ideas about who is dark-skinned. Chuck is not dark-skinned. -
playmaker88 wrote: »She looks like Miles Austin.
Skinny, cooned out, wack dressed-yes. To see her and think of Miles Austin? Thats not normal. -
Man get this lipstick alley ? outta here, you divisive ?
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That ? can't get no ? off the strength of her jeans alone
Yall ? need to come up off that light bright ?
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^I swear this ? got the best IC name right now
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Focal Point wrote: »She slightly reminds of Kat in the top pic
Nggas need to get out the house. Dudes stay sayin this with chicks that dont look nothin like her -
Ol bytch look like Marley mama. Talkin bout 'pass'. Yall nggas LYIN
Smash. -
Lol @ nggas sayin pass
You aint gotta lie to kick it my nggaaaa lls
Mmm! All in her confused awkward ? guts
Pass! She ain't white enough for my taste get this ? ? outta here! -
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Lightskin & darkskin women can be frwends!Lightskin & darkskin women can be frwends!
@Noir got them speed bag ? . I could do a punch combo on them thangs! -
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Ol bytch look like Marley mama. Talkin bout 'pass'. Yall nggas LYIN
Smash.
The ? is anti comb for real... Thats what happens u stop hanging out with the sistas n going to nadine beauty parlor, n get your hair done by white folks at pink kittys... -
That ? can't get no ? off the strength of her jeans alone
Yall ? need to come up off that light bright ?
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Peeny_Wally wrote: »? this ? ? . She's needs to take her personal issues and not indiscriminately applying them to black women. She says she isn't a "tragic mulatto" but she sure writes like one.
Colourism is real, but this approach is counterproductive, ignorant, and dumb.
? this ? .
I knew this would be the only post in here I needed to read... -
Brave of her, I think. She was very honest and that at least, made this a worthwhile read.
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Peeny_Wally wrote: »? this ? ? . She's needs to take her personal issues and not indiscriminately applying them to black women. She says she isn't a "tragic mulatto" but she sure writes like one.
Colourism is real, but this approach is counterproductive, ignorant, and dumb.
? this ? .
Why is her approach counterproductive? @Peeny_Wally
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You know what, you ? ? talking about "this is divisive" sound like white people. When we talk about race there are many of them who say that that -- talking about race -- is divisive, all while racism and white privilege remain alive and well. Colorism, like racism, doesn't go away because you don't talk about it.
So FOH b, if you are on some 'this is divisive' tip. -
Lack of intent means you can't shift responsibility.
@zzombie
Are you saying that if there was malicious intent (which there sometimes is) then society could be held responsible for these women's beauty issues? Intention has nothing to do with responsibility (if you're responsible for your child's safety then you can be faulted for knowingly neglecting or consciously disregarding their safety even if you never deliberately harm them) and regardless of whether or not people should be considered morally responsible for the self-esteem of other people, they are at least in part causally responsible.If you have low self-esteem then it's your ? fault.
No one can make you feel ugly or make you feel prettier than someone else
That's not true, they can. How attractive someone feels is influenced by both their own conscious attitude and preferences as well as how other people evaluate and treat them and their culture's standards of beauty.I know objectively ugly ? that are happy married and living life to the fullest with friends
There are no objectively ugly women and whether or not someone meets up to their society's conventional standards of beauty is only one aspect in how well off they will generally feel. Just because people can endure racism and still have overall happy lives doesn't negate racism as a problem. People with the same 'disadvantages' can also have different experiences (some black people have experienced more racism than others and their perception and attitudes are different at least partly because of it).
@deserttrain10when we live in a male dominated world that puts beautiful women on a pedestal....where long hair, big butts, light colored eyes have become social currency ... its not surprising girls grow up believing that their looks largely determines their worth ... especially when they see little that suggest differently
I don't believe we live in a male dominated society. Men may dominate positions of leadership (and even that isn't due to male discrimination against women) but women have as much influence on cultural and social norms that men are pressured to live up to as men do on cultural ideals that women are expected to embody. When there really was a patriarchy (in the West) that prevented women from voting or having political power it wasn't set up for the benefit of men, it was a gender based 'division of labor' where each sex was assigned different roles and expectations that was set up for the survival of the group and not to discriminate against women for the benefit of men, men were as, if not more, disadvantaged by this system as women were.
Traditionally, *more* emphasis was placed on women being physically attractive but since the advent of birth control and advances in technology that have rendered physical strength less important in the workplace and women being more financially independent than ever, some would argue that modern women place more emphasis on men's physical attractiveness than women in the past did since it's not as crucial for men to be providers and 'success objects' anymore.
If anything I think that conventionally attractive people in general are more likely to be put on a 'pedestal'. I can't imagine most people considering it socially acceptable to criticize a woman's appearance in a way that I've been criticized by complete strangers for some of my physical flaws (and not even something like hair but the most private, personal, 'embarrassing' flaws that no one would have reason to think were 'fixable' to begin with, if I also considered them flaws). I could be wrong (I don't think it would detract from my point) but I think any man who doesn't consider himself to be an out and out ? would probably have a big problem with mocking a woman for being overweight even if he didn't have one with mocking a man for being overweight. The only appearance based insult you're really 'allowed' to throw at women is they're being too skinny but generally it seems tackier for men to criticize a woman's appearance (not her clothes but her actual body/face) than it is for men or women to criticize a man's physical appearance.than white controlled media/entertainment industry tends to depict darker skinned blks in a negative light ...
I don't think I've really noticed that, personally.Women dont come out the ? wanting to look like kim Kardashian, black chyna... willing to risk their health injecting themselves with silicone, wrapping their stomachs with faux gurdles
Most men and women would want to attract the opposite sex even if they weren't shamed for not doing so.
I can't imagine complexion (not even race, ethnicity, culture, sex or class but complexion) being an issue when it comes to friendship or social issues in general. You have light and dark skinned women in the same families. -
Funny how when a lightbright femme cites personal issues that're supposedly rooted in Colorism, she's "brave" and "just being honest;" Yet when a brown/darskin woman does the exact same thing, she's being divisive and insecure.