She does not want kids...But she loves you...How to handel the drama?
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BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »
Oh well then nvm. How much time you got in on this girl?Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Stick it out until she's in her 30s. Then the baby need comes.
She´s 33.I´m 31 but she´s fine lol.I don´t want to take an L and be with her for like 10 years and look back and be like damn...I don´t got a kid.
31? damn you better get a move on you and a prospective girl don't have much time. You wanna be 50 running around with a kid?
I have no problem being 50 and running around with a kid.I´m going to do martial arts my whole life.I can handle it.
2 years and couple months.
? that's some time, and a hard place to be, especially if she's 33 and still doesn't want them. Can't really convince her into it cuz she may hold resentment after. Did she ever go into depth why she doesn't want kids?
Lol @ I'm a libra, ol' I can't make up my mind zodiac
She said the world is a ? up place.It´s all ? up there´s no hope and it just keeps getting worse.Killings,Racism etc.She thinks its cruelty to bring a kid to this world and she thinks she´s going to be a bad mother. -
is having kids that much fun really? i sure can't tell with how much my friends with kids are always complaining or trying to get me to babysit. what is wrong with spending y'all lives fulfilling each other? cuz having kids is a guaranteed lock-down for at least 13 years cuz they can't be left alone before then.
i actually know i'd be a great mom, i just like my carefree life too much, plus peace and quiet, sleeping in and disposable income. if you really love this girl, think about if giving her up is worth hypothetical children. and do you really wanna have kids because it's what you want or what you think you should want or do?
those are the triggers which tells me you still hate your step son. egghead you're a mother a stepmom that's been in his life for some years now and you speak from this perspective?? smh
where's your growth?
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semi-auto-mato wrote: »OK here is a suggestion I know is not popular in our community. Go to therapy. Go as a couple first and try to convince her to go solo. I say go as couple first so she can see u are cool with it. U won't look at her differently if she goes by herself. She needs to go solo though cuz she might not open up to u. It sounds like something happened that she is not telling u.
If u love her give it ur all. If u gotta leave at least u tried.
She doesn't need therapy.
Simply because there's nothing wrong with her.
She already knows she doesn't want kids because of how her mother treated her and how afraid she is of being a terrible mom.
Everything doesn't need to be "fixed."
I mean, what if she's right?
What if she actually would be a terrible mother?
Waste all that time and money in therapy.......twisting her head up to make her believe she can handle motherhood.......she ends up having kids..........and it turns out just like she thought it would.
But, I guess it makes sense.
More money for the therapist because she's gonna need more therapy to cope with being in a miserable situation that she never wanted to be in to begin with.
Lmao my bad I was trying to be supportive. I read this and starting think ok maybe he should leave lmao.
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Love child e a younger ? . Can't lose
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is having kids that much fun really? i sure can't tell with how much my friends with kids are always complaining or trying to get me to babysit. what is wrong with spending y'all lives fulfilling each other? cuz having kids is a guaranteed lock-down for at least 13 years cuz they can't be left alone before then.
i actually know i'd be a great mom, i just like my carefree life too much, plus peace and quiet, sleeping in and disposable income. if you really love this girl, think about if giving her up is worth hypothetical children. and do you really wanna have kids because it's what you want or what you think you should want or do?
Although some say that I'll make a dope father but this is the same reasons why I don't want any. I love that luxury -
Get Nutty or find a new chick.
Side note: 2stepz_ahead :that livefromthe215 show is funny as ? . -
is having kids that much fun really? i sure can't tell with how much my friends with kids are always complaining or trying to get me to babysit. what is wrong with spending y'all lives fulfilling each other? cuz having kids is a guaranteed lock-down for at least 13 years cuz they can't be left alone before then.
i actually know i'd be a great mom, i just like my carefree life too much, plus peace and quiet, sleeping in and disposable income. if you really love this girl, think about if giving her up is worth hypothetical children. and do you really wanna have kids because it's what you want or what you think you should want or do?
those are the triggers which tells me you still hate your step son. egghead you're a mother a stepmom that's been in his life for some years now and you speak from this perspective?? smh
where's your growth?
smh, stop it, i was referring to biological motherhood. my step son was/is great, i got to do all the great parts of motherhood without all the headache parts. first off, i was only in his life from the age of 5, so i didn't have all the sleepless nights. he had visitation with his mother, so my weekends always been free. i never had to discipline him because his father handled that. i got to play with him, cook for him which i love anyway, and spend time doing fun things like taking him places. between that and how i practically raised my younger siblings, i've gotten enough of the nurturing experience for a lifetime
on top of that, i contribute to countless children's lives on a regular basis since i provide academic help and tutoring service to children in need, and my husband couches multiple sports, so we don't need to have any biological children of our own to get those nurturing needs meet or to leave some kind of legacy. my step-son is 18 now and going to college. keeping him on the straight and narrow at that age is enough work in itself, and he has our complete focus, which he wouldn't if i had a child
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is having kids that much fun really? i sure can't tell with how much my friends with kids are always complaining or trying to get me to babysit. what is wrong with spending y'all lives fulfilling each other? cuz having kids is a guaranteed lock-down for at least 13 years cuz they can't be left alone before then.
i actually know i'd be a great mom, i just like my carefree life too much, plus peace and quiet, sleeping in and disposable income. if you really love this girl, think about if giving her up is worth hypothetical children. and do you really wanna have kids because it's what you want or what you think you should want or do?
People complain about life in general..kids are part of that life for some people. Just because your kids are your kids don't mean they won't do things that other humans do that annoy you. And somebody asking you to babysit don't mean they don't like their kids...just means they wanna go somewhere without their kids -
Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »
Oh well then nvm. How much time you got in on this girl?Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Stick it out until she's in her 30s. Then the baby need comes.
She´s 33.I´m 31 but she´s fine lol.I don´t want to take an L and be with her for like 10 years and look back and be like damn...I don´t got a kid.
31? damn you better get a move on you and a prospective girl don't have much time. You wanna be 50 running around with a kid?
I have no problem being 50 and running around with a kid.I´m going to do martial arts my whole life.I can handle it.
2 years and couple months.
? that's some time, and a hard place to be, especially if she's 33 and still doesn't want them. Can't really convince her into it cuz she may hold resentment after. Did she ever go into depth why she doesn't want kids?
Lol @ I'm a libra, ol' I can't make up my mind zodiac
She said the world is a ? up place.It´s all ? up there´s no hope and it just keeps getting worse.Killings,Racism etc.She thinks its cruelty to bring a kid to this world and she thinks she´s going to be a bad mother.
She does have a point there, except about being a bad mum. I'm inclined to believe society is going to get much worse before the trek back up. Its not even my issue and my head is stuck between a rock and a hard place on this. -
We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
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Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
Give me her contact information. -
Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
Damn that was abrupt, didn't expect that. -
Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
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she would be perfection. i have zero desire to be someones father
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And this is why black men fail.I´m talking about real issues and dudes want to slide in.This is the reason why we don´t trust each other.You can go online and find women that want no children.If you have to get it from me you are in trouble ya dirt bags I would never help ya!
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BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
Damn that was abrupt, didn't expect that.
Man I´m sad and worried but I´ll have to stick it out.She´s saying she´s not psichologically prepared to have a child. -
is having kids that much fun really? i sure can't tell with how much my friends with kids are always complaining or trying to get me to babysit. what is wrong with spending y'all lives fulfilling each other? cuz having kids is a guaranteed lock-down for at least 13 years cuz they can't be left alone before then.
i actually know i'd be a great mom, i just like my carefree life too much, plus peace and quiet, sleeping in and disposable income. if you really love this girl, think about if giving her up is worth hypothetical children. and do you really wanna have kids because it's what you want or what you think you should want or do?
See @Kai you and me....we here!
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The older I get, the more I feel like kids is just some ? they tell you you're supposed to do as a woman. If I had them by accident, I'd take good care of the little ? but I aint pressed about kids AT ALL.
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Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
Damn that was abrupt, didn't expect that.
Man I´m sad and worried but I´ll have to stick it out.She´s saying she´s not psichologically prepared to have a child.
Kids is a big thing and imo its better to move on than entrap someone or convince them to have them. Best of luck to you and may Uni bring you that which you desire. -
Welcome to life bruh
I never met a chick that didnt want kids ...but I can understand if she is doubting herself as a parent
But no parent is perfect and usually learn by the second child...if they are active in their lives
Bring some of your family kids around she might change her mind when she sees how you interact with them
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BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Cabana_Da_Don wrote: »We broke up....Soooo.Unfortunatly she was not having it and I´m not giving up.I´m getting old and she argues wayyyy to ? much.So ? it.I let the dime go.
Damn that was abrupt, didn't expect that.
Man I´m sad and worried but I´ll have to stick it out.She´s saying she´s not psichologically prepared to have a child.
Kids is a big thing and imo its better to move on than entrap someone or convince them to have them. Best of luck to you and may Uni bring you that which you desire.
Thanks family I appreciate the support I really do.It's good seeing how there's still a percentage of our people that are mature.Much love and ? Bless you I respect you as a man. -
obnoxiouslyfresh wrote: »The older I get, the more I feel like kids is just some ? they tell you you're supposed to do as a woman. If I had them by accident, I'd take good care of the little ? but I aint pressed about kids AT ALL.
"So u can hold off on the pureed chitlins" -
obnoxiouslyfresh wrote: »The older I get, the more I feel like kids is just some ? they tell you you're supposed to do as a woman. If I had them by accident, I'd take good care of the little ? but I aint pressed about kids AT ALL.
Thats the thing with having kids babe, the moment you give birth is the moment you forget about yourself...nothing seems important anymore except for your baby.
