My ex just died...
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Oneblackrose2hi
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...yeah....it's got me in a real weird place...we broke up the beginning of this year...it was alot more bad times than good, but the good times are so easily remembered now...i don't want to go to his funeral for a few reasons, mainly because I don't want my last image of him to be in a casket...my friends say I'm wrong....anybody been through this?? I need some feedback please...
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dont go if you dont wanna
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pay your respects just be in and out.
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pico rivera wrote: »dont go if you dont wanna
Thanx for the input, but it's not that simple. I feel it's my duty to pay my respects cause I know if it were the other way around, he would be there for me... -
Go to the funeral dude
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pico rivera wrote: »dont go if you dont wanna
ummmm hello vanna white bread -
You should go to the funeral and say goodbye, you're wanting to remember him alive won't make him alive. Death is a rough burden to bare, but regret is the heaviest.
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biblicalatheist wrote: »you should go to the funeral and say goodbye, you're wanting to remember him alive won't make him alive. Death is a rough burden to bare, but regret is the heaviest.
you like xxl quotable of the month huh, woman? -
pay your respects just be in and out.
Thats what I was thinking...but I'm freaking out at the thought of seeing him in a casket...it would just make it all too real...plus his kids and bm will be there as well as the rest of his family..his mom said I should come...ithink I would rather just visit his grave by myself.... -
JB-CHI-CITY wrote: »you like xxl quotable of the month huh, woman?
Short and sweet and to the point -
how d he die? and is the bm crazy?
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BiblicalAtheist wrote: »Short and sweet and to the point
umm no comment -
how d he die? and is the bm crazy?
He got setup and robbed by so-called friends...and I never met his bm, but he used to say she was crazy... -
Oneblackrose2hi wrote: »Thats what I was thinking...but I'm freaking out at the thought of seeing him in a casket...it would just make it all too real...plus his kids and bm will be there as well as the rest of his family..his mom said I should come...ithink I would rather just visit his grave by myself....
Dang, sorry to hear about your loss. But, to answer the question of the thread, you should go and pay your respects. What you said above sounds a little selfish (no offense), but if he meant something to you at some point, then you should do it for him/ his family and not make it about you and what you want. -
Oneblackrose2hi wrote: »He got setup and robbed by so-called friends...and I never met his bm, but he used to say she was crazy...
where at?
this happened like two night's ago? -
100%Sagittarius wrote: »Dang, sorry to hear about your loss. But, to answer the question of the thread, you should go and pay your respects. What you said above sounds a little selfish (no offense), but if he meant something to you at some point, then you should do it for him/ his family and not make it about you and what you want.
hapy b-day lil homie -
go take a ? in the casket, baby
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it happend on the 11th on 81st& hermitage...im not trying to appear selfish,sag and I see where you're comin from...but I feel that he knows my heart and that im going to pay homage in my own way....i guess my feeling of guilt is coming from going against the traditional tribute...JB-CHI-CITY wrote: »where at?
this happened like two night's ago? -
I say don't go and remember him as he was. Maybe stop by and drop off a card or something to his mom and call it a day.
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Wow, so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine if any of my exes died, it would definitely be hard to deal with. I think you should go b/c you may regret not going later in life.
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Conflict210 wrote: »are restraining orders lifted once the person dies?
? stop it!
If you don't you'll regret it
Just go -
i always do wakes if im not feeling the funeral...
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oneblackrose2hi wrote: »it happend on the 11th on 81st& hermitage...im not trying to appear selfish,sag and i see where you're comin from...but i feel that he knows my heart and that im going to pay homage in my own way....i guess my feeling of guilt is coming from going against the traditional tribute...
i heard bout that my man'z stay around there
i feel you though
that ? tough seein ? 'z laid up in a box -
I think that you should go, for 2 reasons. 1. To pay your respects, and 2. To give you some closure so you can be at peace with yourself for the spirit, mind, body and soul..
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i think that you should go, for 2 reasons. 1. To pay your respects, and 2. To give you some closure so you can be at peace with yourself for the spirit, mind, body and soul..
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wassup pac fan polamalu, how you? -
Go pay your respect and be out. If you don't go I feel like you'll regret it down the road. The guy and you had a deep connection at one point, so I mean that has to count for something.
