Mind over matter: The Beginning of Sex in RELATIONSHIPS....
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Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Smh .
I know, I did apologize tho. -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Our clean bill of health>>>a full belly one afternoon.
Dinner will be ready at 6 sharp when you're off work. I promise.
Smh!
Compromise....I likeConscious__Nkechi wrote: »On the other hand I have yet to have a man ask me to go get tested. I've only been the one to ask.
Blind trust. A dude will ask about birth control before std history. -
Compromise....I like
Blind trust. A dude will ask about birth control before std history.
My fear of STDs has kept my ? really low. -
Compromise....I like
Blind trust. A dude will ask about birth control before std history.
With me? Sure, I get it. I do make others feel very comfortable. From what I've been told and what I have noticed, people tend to break down a lot of their walls around me and open up fairly quickly. However, I don't think it's just me, it's them. Why not inquire even if I carry myself as a lady? But I get it. And I've never been asked about BC either. I guess that can also be due to the fact that I usually discuss these kinds of things beforehand and by then they already have a feel for where I am at mentally. even still, there is no such thing as being "too" cautious. -
Hold the front door. How can this ? slip it in raw? The ? was out? Then hell yea I would expect for him to attempt. I was about to say hell naw he don't respect her wishes, but ? in the face? ? would be a fool not to at least make an attempt. Idk about the raw part but he might've felt like that was his shot.
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mrsoutcity wrote: »My fear of STDs has kept my ? really low.
lol same here...but I know multiple ppl that have had sex with 100 girls...Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »With me? Sure, I get it. I do make others feel very comfortable. From what I've been told and what I have noticed, people tend to break down a lot of their walls around me and open up fairly quickly. However, I don't think it's just me, it's them. Why not inquire even if I carry myself as a lady? But I get it. And I've never been asked about BC either. I guess that can also be due to the fact that I usually discuss these kinds of things beforehand and by then they already have a feel for where I am at mentally. even still, there is no such thing as being "too" cautious.
I don't think women can "pretend" to carry themselves as a lady. For most men its obvious from the job, so thats probably why they open up to you so easily.
The thing about being easy to converse with, is that once you admit your faults, nobody questions you about what else you may be hiding. So the guy prob thinks, hey if she didn't tell me then she obviously never had one. -
In order for me to have a successful relationship, i need chemistry in all areas.
There is a certain amount of time i am willing to wait before finding out if we
are compatible in all areas. To take longer, is to waste my time.
Time is not something that is a renewable resource. i can die tomorrow. I dont know how much time i have.
OR her.
Sooooooooooo, if she aint gonna ? or suck within us spending one on one time together 10 or so times, i am out.
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lol same here...but I know multiple ppl that have had sex with 100 girls...
I don't think women can "pretend" to carry themselves as a lady. For most men its obvious from the job, so thats probably why they open up to you so easily.
The thing about being easy to converse with, is that once you admit your faults, nobody questions you about what else you may be hiding. So the guy prob thinks, hey if she didn't tell me then she obviously never had one.
I over stand all of that and yes, they are blindly trusting which in this day and age can be very foolish. Fortunate for them, I am clean and beyond extra cautious to the point that I've gotten tested after purchasing a new battery operated friend
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Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »I over stand all of that and yes, they are blindly trusting which in this day and age can be very foolish. Fortunate for them, I am clean and beyond extra cautious to the point that I've gotten tested after purchasing a new battery operated friend Smh.
lol now that is in fact crazy
Soap and water, maybe alcohol to keep from getting a bacterial infection. But an std test? lol that's just plain paranoia -
i can wait. not a big deal wit me. hell i'd respect her even more if she wanted to get tested together. i would go wit the flow tho, but i'd let her make the decision as to how far she wanna go. now if she doesn't have any condoms, again i can wait.
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lol now that is in fact crazy
Soap and water, maybe alcohol to keep from getting a bacterial infection. But an std test? lol that's just plain paranoia
Soap and water?? Oh dear ? no. They have toy cleaners!
I was j/p. In actuality I did get tested, more than once, while I havent even been sexually active :l -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »T
Ladies: After making it clear on where you stand on the matter of sex and things related, if he tried to take more than what you made available to him and he did take the opportunity to "put it on you" and disregarded your wish to wait until you have been tested together, how would you react? Would it be nothing to you or something unforgivable? Is there room for another chance? Or is that the end of it? What if after all you told him he tried all this without protection?
It wouldnt be the end of it. I almost expect men to try. but I would shut it down and keep an eye open. it just shows lack of self control. I would re insist on the testing and if he continues to refuse... then it's done.
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Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Soap and water?? Oh dear ? no. They have toy cleaners!
I was j/p. In actuality I did get tested, more than once, while I havent even been sexually active :l
My doctor told me you should get tested at least once a year, even if you aren't sexually active. 2x a year if you are having sex. -
My doctor told me you should get tested at least once a year, even if you aren't sexually active. 2x a year if you are having sex.
This is most likely due to certain STD's taking time to show up in your blood. It takes at least 6 months before you can actually get tested for ? . -
i never had to wait a month if we liked each other
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Getting tested first is whats up. I don't like sex with worries, but sometimes impulsive things happens. I wouldnt say it's un-forgive-able.
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If I'm letting him feel me up and eat my ? its pretty stupid to try to act offended that he's trying to slide home. If I wasnt ready then I would just say that, but I wouldn't write him off. He's human and a male one at that.
