Ladies how do you feel about your man watching porn in a relationship

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  • Qiv_Owan
    Qiv_Owan Members Posts: 4,125 ✭✭✭✭✭
    fortyacres wrote: »
    depends how much you watch , if you gat saved tabs on your laptop and phone , yeah you doing too much.

    ? got a whole 64gb memory card dedicated to shesfreaky
    Daily filling it up
    Dont get around to watchin all the time tho
  • deadeye
    deadeye Members Posts: 22,884 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2016
    Kai wrote: »


    He's up front and honest with any other woman, like they know he's married and he's not going anywhere. You'd be surprised how many women that alone scares away, like they'd be cool with it if he was cheating on his wife but the complete honesty rattles them I guess.





    They're not scared per se, just kind of ? their head up because they don't know how to react to the fact that they're not getting over on another woman.



    Basically takes away the competitive/cattiness aspect for them.
  • dwade206
    dwade206 Members Posts: 11,558 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    Kai wrote: »
    gns wrote: »
    @ kai is awesome.
    Bro she is lying!

    Hey if you say so. It really makes no difference what you believe. My man knows the real and that's all that matters

    Just cuz you never managed to have it like that doesn't mean other men can't

    *raises hand*

    Ms.Kai I got a question.

    Ok so since Mr.Kai has this "freedom", what is his limits? I mean can he REALLY do what he wants like bring another broad to have a 3sum wit you?

    Or is that crossing the boundaries and the safe word "Pineapples juice" has to be used?

    I really have absolutely no sexual attraction to women so we don't do threesomes. I trust him completely, so all he has to do is be safe which he would be doing anyway even if he was single.

    He's up front and honest with any other woman, like they know he's married and he's not going anywhere. You'd be surprised how many women that alone scares away, like they'd be cool with it if he was cheating on his wife but the complete honesty rattles them I guess.

    Funny story that's kind of related, he was giving a buddy a ride home from the gym and he (the friend) was looking for his phone in the glove compartment my husband has some magnums in there. Anyway I was on the phone with him and his friend didn't realize this and was like "all I see is the rubbers" and realized I was on the phone after he said that, and he was all apologetic like he had just dry snitched on my husband. I was laughing and my husband was like she doesn't give a ? lol

    I mean I can see how other people might not get our set up, but it works for us. I think my background makes it easier for me to understand that his biological urges as a man are just that, and that they have nothing to do with our love and commitment towards each other.

    I'm very secure in myself and what I mean to him, so I don't feel any jealousy or threatened by any other woman. I'm not going to bind him to some unrealistic notion of monogamy that is just not natural simply because our society says that's what we should do


    ...? is official. Salute.
  • CapitalB
    CapitalB Members Posts: 24,556 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    Kai wrote: »
    gns wrote: »
    @ kai is awesome.
    Bro she is lying!

    Hey if you say so. It really makes no difference what you believe. My man knows the real and that's all that matters

    Just cuz you never managed to have it like that doesn't mean other men can't

    *raises hand*

    Ms.Kai I got a question.

    Ok so since Mr.Kai has this "freedom", what is his limits? I mean can he REALLY do what he wants like bring another broad to have a 3sum wit you?

    Or is that crossing the boundaries and the safe word "Pineapples juice" has to be used?

    I really have absolutely no sexual attraction to women so we don't do threesomes. I trust him completely, so all he has to do is be safe which he would be doing anyway even if he was single.

    He's up front and honest with any other woman, like they know he's married and he's not going anywhere. You'd be surprised how many women that alone scares away, like they'd be cool with it if he was cheating on his wife but the complete honesty rattles them I guess.

    Funny story that's kind of related, he was giving a buddy a ride home from the gym and he (the friend) was looking for his phone in the glove compartment my husband has some magnums in there. Anyway I was on the phone with him and his friend didn't realize this and was like "all I see is the rubbers" and realized I was on the phone after he said that, and he was all apologetic like he had just dry snitched on my husband. I was laughing and my husband was like she doesn't give a ? lol

    I mean I can see how other people might not get our set up, but it works for us. I think my background makes it easier for me to understand that his biological urges as a man are just that, and that they have nothing to do with our love and commitment towards each other.

    I'm very secure in myself and what I mean to him, so I don't feel any jealousy or threatened by any other woman. I'm not going to bind him to some unrealistic notion of monogamy that is just not natural simply because our society says that's what we should do


    lol u sound like my child's mother when it comes to me havin other ? ..
  • Ol Jay's
    Ol Jay's Members Posts: 8,286 ✭✭✭✭✭
    only chick cool with her guy ? other chicks are those that ? off themselves

    Whether it's e-? , sending nudes, or selling ?
  • CapitalB
    CapitalB Members Posts: 24,556 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2016
    Ol Jay's wrote: »
    only chick cool with her guy ? other chicks are those that ? off themselves

    Whether it's e-? , sending nudes, or selling ?

    u may have a point..

    but open relationships are the best..
    ? be jus as delusional as these ? when it comes to ? ..

    i value a ? 's respect more then i do her ? ..
    a ? will give her ? to anyone..
    so yall can keep thinkin these ? is only ? u and only 2 before u if u want to. lol
  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    edited November 2016
    So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

    Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?


    I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

    Worked for her .... could never be me
  • mryounggun
    mryounggun Members Posts: 13,451 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Is it just me or you been MIA for a while @MsSouthern?
  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    mryounggun wrote: »
    Is it just me or you been MIA for a while @MsSouthern?

    Love
    Work
    Bday
    Vacay
    Life

    Keeping me busy lol


  • gns
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  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    Kai wrote: »
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

    Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?


    I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

    Worked for her .... could never be me

    If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

    He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

    Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

    I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

    Hey if it works for y'all then that's great.

    I've learned that what is right for me doesn't have to be right for someone else


    I was just curious :)
  • LPast
    LPast Members Posts: 4,546 ✭✭✭✭✭
    The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

    My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?
  • CapitalB
    CapitalB Members Posts: 24,556 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2016
    LPast wrote: »
    The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

    My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

    why does she have to be naive??
    like what exactly is she bein naive to?? seein as she knows and accepts the dynamics of their relationship??
    the only thing u got right was her being secure.. secure in herself and secure with her standings with her dude.

    i made a post earlier thats probably gonna remain ignored about how its actually the opposite..
    its YOU ? who are not in open relationships that are the naive ones.. and have the ego.

    when it comes to relationships y'all be so hung up on sex u lie to get it.. lie to keep it..
    even if it means lying to urself..
    when relationships is so much deeper then that..
  • Recaptimus_Prime360
    Recaptimus_Prime360 Members Posts: 64,801 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai just came in and derailed the thread.
  • Chi Snow
    Chi Snow Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 28,111 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    I really don't give a damn, but my man gets ? on demand plus he can ? who ever he wants irl too, so he really don't give much of a ? about porn. More than anything we probably watch it together to set the mood or he'll watch it while he gets some head
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  • Chi Snow
    Chi Snow Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 28,111 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I see I'm late to the party

    Damn
  • Focal Point
    Focal Point Members Posts: 16,307 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Kai this is fairly old news for you, you have always been open about your relationship is and y'all understanding props... By the way, you have a sister and a friend whom are like minded?
  • R0mp
    R0mp Members Posts: 4,250 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    So @Kai are you ok with him saying "I'm not coming home cause I'm with *insert girl name* tonight " what if you want him home with you ????

    Do you ask questions about where he is or who he is with or are you not allowed to ?


    I have a friend who dated a guy for years. He told her he would give her 6 good nights and the 7th she wasn't allowed to ask about

    Worked for her .... could never be me

    If he said it just like that, I'd have no problem with it, just tell him to drive safe and have fun. he comes home like 99% of the time tho, it's probably more cuz he likes sleeping in his own bed, he'll usually just stay out as late as he wants then go home after

    He'll tell me he's going out and just goes. I don't really ask usually, or care to, about where he's going in general, so the same applies to this. I mean if he volunteers the info, I'm like sure, but I don't care either way

    Like if we're just making small talk let's say after dinner on a Friday or something, I might ask him if he had any plans for the night if we're not going out together and he'll tell me he's having drinks with so and so

    I mean I can ask whatever I want, I really don't care to usually. As far as him leaving if I need him to stay, he'd never go anywhere if he knew I genuinely needed him there. He's very attentive to my needs that way

    What a cuckquean. Lmao.
  • Kai
    Kai Members, Moderators Posts: 704 Regulator
    LPast wrote: »
    The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

    My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

    She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my ? ....

    He ain't going NO WHERE.

    Lol, I can't believe you remember this. Don't forget the minced onion and dash of lemon juice
  • CapitalB
    CapitalB Members Posts: 24,556 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    LPast wrote: »
    The thing with situations like @kai isn't the mechanics... It's the EGO. Kai has to be REALLY secure, even a bit naive to make this work.

    My question is if things didn't work out. Is this your rule for any man or just your husband?

    She puts minced celery in her tuna salad my ? ....

    He ain't going NO WHERE.

    Lol, I can't believe you remember this. Don't forget the minced onion and dash of lemon juice

    yo tuna aint seein mine..
    i put all that in as well.. also some ? i aint go list that sets it over the top..

    i dont mince tho..
    i like the crunch.. otherwise I'm chewing on mush. lol
  • EmM HoLLa.
    EmM HoLLa. Members Posts: 3,255 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Kai wrote: »
    mike06 wrote: »
    Kai wrote: »
    @Kai

    You ever consider making a video series with some 1-3 minute video clips of various relationship advise?

    Think about it.

    I'll pass, this works for us and we are perfect for each other. I can't and don't want to tell anyone else what to do in there relationships. Only advice I'd give is to be honest and open with each other about your needs and wants.


    wow this is interesting.....so if you don't mind me asking when was the last time he stepped out?....or does the fact that you give him the ultimate hall pass as well as still handlin your own bizness even make him want to step out?

    I haven't asked him recently, but as far as a I know it's been a while. The sentiment at the end of your post is pretty apt, him being able to do whatever wants has made him exceptionally picky actually

    He be passing on hoes more than not. Now imagine this vs guys that are supposed to be strictly monogamous, when let's be real they're most likely still cheating anyway. In that situation those guys gotta take whatever opportunity presents themselves.

    So it'd be the not so cute chick at the club cuz your girl is out of town and it'll be your only chance to do something without getting caught. Beggars can't really be choosers.


    And he doesn't play games with these chicks. If they trying it with the mind games, or think he's gonna be chasing them, he's quick to go ghost on them lol



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