Ladies Read this article!! "Sex is Cheap: Why young men have the upper hand in bed.."
Options
MsVShantrell
Members Posts: 155
This article isn't written by me (no shameless promotion today). This article is real tho. Showing the perils of giving up free ? ! I been saying this for years!! Women stop giving up free ? !! Make they ? work. Every female out there ? a ? on his terms (which is getting everything from you without putting out damn near nothing) is making it harder on the next female! We need to stop aiding and abetting yall!!!
Below are a few excepts.. http://www.slate.com/id/2286240/
"And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of sex is currently very low. "
"The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health data offer other glimpses into just how low the cost of sex is for young men ages 18 through 23. Take the speed with which these men say their romantic relationships become sexual: 36 per...cent of young men's relationships add sex by the end of the second week of exclusivity; an additional 13 percent do so by the end of the first month. A second indicator of cheap sex is the share of young men's sexual relationships—30 percent—that don't involve romance at all: no wooing, no dates, no nothing. Finally, as my colleagues and I discovered in our interviews, striking numbers of young women are participating in unwanted sex—either particular acts they dislike or more frequent intercourse than they'd prefer or mimicking porn (being in a dating relationship is correlated to greater acceptance of and use of porn among women)."
"And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to."
Below are a few excepts.. http://www.slate.com/id/2286240/
"And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of sex is currently very low. "
"The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health data offer other glimpses into just how low the cost of sex is for young men ages 18 through 23. Take the speed with which these men say their romantic relationships become sexual: 36 per...cent of young men's relationships add sex by the end of the second week of exclusivity; an additional 13 percent do so by the end of the first month. A second indicator of cheap sex is the share of young men's sexual relationships—30 percent—that don't involve romance at all: no wooing, no dates, no nothing. Finally, as my colleagues and I discovered in our interviews, striking numbers of young women are participating in unwanted sex—either particular acts they dislike or more frequent intercourse than they'd prefer or mimicking porn (being in a dating relationship is correlated to greater acceptance of and use of porn among women)."
"And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to."
Comments
-
if ? was a stock,it would be plummeting.
-
people make sex more than what it is...
-
t/s how long does it take for you to let him in???
-
I used to like your posts Shantrell but now you gon give up the game to these chicks? j/k
I see where you goin, but it'll send the wrong message. Basically you gotta change your thinking first(not to mention make sure you fit the criteria of what you say you want) on the type to people you attract. So regardless if they make a dude "work" for it, if he ain't ? , he STILL gone bounce after he "paid" for it.
I say educate these broads on appreciating a man for how he handles his business and not for what's in his pockets, his car or his "swag". That in turn will force dumb ? to get they ? together otherwise risk being a lonely under sexed dumb ? .
Face it, if women didn't keep ? dumb ? , there wouldn't be as many -
I used to like your posts Shantrell but now you gon give up the game to these chicks? j/k
I see where you goin, but it'll send the wrong message. Basically you gotta change your thinking first(not to mention make sure you fit the criteria of what you say you want) on the type to people you attract. So regardless if they make a dude "work" for it, if he ain't ? , he STILL gone bounce after he "paid" for it.
I say educate these broads on appreciating a man for how he handles his business and not for what's in his pockets, his car or his "swag". That in turn will force dumb ? to get they ? together otherwise risk being a lonely under sexed dumb ? .
Face it, if women didn't keep ? dumb ? , there wouldn't be as many
and since they dont!!!! we dont feel sorry for them...but as a Christian...we should try and help our people lol... -
I used to like your posts Shantrell but now you gon give up the game to these chicks? j/k
I see where you goin, but it'll send the wrong message. Basically you gotta change your thinking first(not to mention make sure you fit the criteria of what you say you want) on the type to people you attract. So regardless if they make a dude "work" for it, if he ain't ? , he STILL gone bounce after he "paid" for it.
I say educate these broads on appreciating a man for how he handles his business and not for what's in his pockets, his car or his "swag". That in turn will force dumb ? to get they ? together otherwise risk being a lonely under sexed dumb ? .
Face it, if women didn't keep ? dumb ? , there wouldn't be as many
thats all that needs to be said -
? or ?
-
Hey.... more sex less war right?
-
MsVShantrell wrote: »This article isn't written by me (no shameless promotion today). This article is real tho. Showing the perils of giving up free ? ! I been saying this for years!! Women stop giving up free ? !! Make they ? work. Every female out there ? a ? on his terms (which is getting everything from you without putting out damn near nothing) is making it harder on the next female! We need to stop aiding and abetting yall!!!
Below are a few excepts.. http://www.slate.com/id/2286240/
"And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of sex is currently very low. "
"The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health data offer other glimpses into just how low the cost of sex is for young men ages 18 through 23. Take the speed with which these men say their romantic relationships become sexual: 36 per...cent of young men's relationships add sex by the end of the second week of exclusivity; an additional 13 percent do so by the end of the first month. A second indicator of cheap sex is the share of young men's sexual relationships—30 percent—that don't involve romance at all: no wooing, no dates, no nothing. Finally, as my colleagues and I discovered in our interviews, striking numbers of young women are participating in unwanted sex—either particular acts they dislike or more frequent intercourse than they'd prefer or mimicking porn (being in a dating relationship is correlated to greater acceptance of and use of porn among women)."
"And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to."
So you promotin' prostitution / being a ? ? -
ok good post girl
-
This article is flawed and bias. I can go into specifics but mainly women are competing against other women based off of population numbers alone. The article states certain age ranges where in today's time, people, especially men have no real incentive to being in a monogamous relationship. ? by far is not free. Sex in general is not free.
-
Mr. Terrific wrote: »This article is flawed and bias. I can go into specifics but mainly women are competing against other women based off of population numbers alone. The article states certain age ranges where in today's time, people, especially men have no real incentive to being in a monogamous relationship. ? by far is not free. Sex in general is not free.
I don't think it's suggesting that sex is free. More so that women aren't really putting much stock into their ? , and just giving it up for little to nothing from most men. I know I've gotten the ? before, without having to do much. It's more of an idea that if women were to make it harder for men to get sex, and expect more out of them before they give it up, then maybe men as a whole will step their overall game up in order to get sex from women.
You got women complaining about how ? ain't ? . Yet they have 1 or 2 kids by ? with no jobs, sell drugs, living with moms, have kids with other women. But they knew all of this before sleeping with him, and all it took was him telling her she's special. If more and more women were to expect more from a man then that. Then overtime men will come with much better then that before he will expect any sex from a woman. -
I don't think it's suggesting that sex is free. More so that women aren't really putting much stock into their ? , and just giving it up for little to nothing from most men. I know I've gotten the ? before, without having to do much. It's more of an idea that if women were to make it harder for men to get sex, and expect more out of them before they give it up, then maybe men as a whole will step their overall game up in order to get sex from women.
You got women complaining about how ? ain't ? . Yet they have 1 or 2 kids by ? with no jobs, sell drugs, living with moms, have kids with other women. But they knew all of this before sleeping with him, and all it took was him telling her she's special. If more and more women were to expect more from a man then that. Then overtime men will come with much better then that before he will expect any sex from a woman.
people just need to be more responsible when having sex... sex is not the problem the person is the problem... as long as your carry yourself the right way and not blame everyone for your problems you should be able to have sex with anyone... guy or girl...
after the first time you have sex you belong to the game... holding it up for hostage or extorting guys for it will not change who you are as a person -
See what ? like you fail to understand is that your ? is no greater than that next hoe you talkin down on. You telling her to make ? work and there is an endless supply of ? on earf. There's always gone be hoes. Just look at the women in ur family. Im sure u know at least 3. If women had any sense of dignity then maybe a ? would work for it because it would be rewarding. But yall just hoes, especially black women.
-
ts
your ? aint gold
if you think it is
go ? it out on the track you dingy dustbucket -
Ill be honest.. I didnt' read this ? because i knew it would be a waste and be some ? .. Stop reading these magazines and being herded like cattle
-
lmao @ working for sex
must be out your godforsaken mind -
t/s ? out 24 karat golden nuggets
-
YOu are asking females to have an "empowered" attitude towards sex without realizing what you are saying isnt what most females are actually going to hear. Sadly, females are dumb as ? and because of this will inherently do dumb ? as a result.
All the advice in the world aint gonna stop these ? from ? when they get ? . They still human. Especially with younger males/females. When they get ? . They ? . These hoes aint swiping these ? ATM cards with a portable card reader out here. He dressed nicely, he taller than them and/or in school and thats all the background research that hoe gonna do.
And because of the "you go girl! These ? is doing it! When they ? they heroes when we do it we ? ! Make these ? work girlfriend!" All females hear when this is said is, "yeah...? these ? ..amma get mine...amma ? me a baller ? ...Im only givin up the ? for a pair of jeans and a purse."
The message they're getting is "these ? aint ? so..........................we need to act more like them" lol
And it ends up being like dumb ? and the NBA. Everybody wanna play but only 1 percent get to the pros. Every ? wanna play the game but every ? dont have the skills. The only real lesson is be honest with what you want, know yourself and you will still run into problems but those problems wont be long lasting because you'll be intelligent enough to peep his/her ? from a mile away. -
LOL thats the answer right there. A ? dont know wat she want till she in her mid 30's, 2 kids, and still single. Well black women i mean.Every ? wanna play the game but every ? dont have the skills. The only real lesson is be honest with what you want, know yourself and you will still run into problems but those problems wont be long lasting because you'll be intelligent enough to peep his/her ? from a mile away. -
There shouldnt be a price on ?
so youre saying women should put their sex on market like prostitutes???
So youre saying young girls and women should become hoes?? -
people just need to be more responsible when having sex... sex is not the problem the person is the problem... as long as your carry yourself the right way and not blame everyone for your problems you should be able to have sex with anyone... guy or girl...
after the first time you have sex you belong to the game... holding it up for hostage or extorting guys for it will not change who you are as a person
I'm not arguing that at all. If you hold yourself to a higher standard, then that will be the level of people you attract. But I also see some sense in the article, but like Darxwell explained, it something that will not be executed by the majority of women. Plus we can't rule out the hoes who simply don't give a ? about the type of man she has, as long as he will pay her way. -
Self worth.. confidence.. control of your own body/mind.
? that article. -
@Darxwell Got a serious question for you. I ain't on no going back and forth with the insults today though. Maybe tomorrow! But, seriously, is your mind in a state of tranquility so you can answer on some grown man ? ?
-
smh.. All I know is my daddy told me this: "You rather be a hoe or you rather be a fool? I'd be a hoe any day over giving up free ? ." That's some real ? . I'm not advocating sleeping with men for money. I'm advocating women not just giving it up because they just like him. No! Men should put in work which includes time and money (relative to their means). I don't care what anyone says; I'm going to continue to believe that whatever comes easy, gets tossed to the side easily too; what a man works for, he's more likely to cherish. I've talked to too many men (brothers, cousins, homeboys, etc) many of which are straight dogs (regular men lol) to believe otherwise.
So ladies, you can let theses dudes on here tell you that you shouldn't put a price on your ? and how your ? ain't made of gold etc and end up feeling dumb because you gave it up without getting nothing (materialistically speaking, as well as symbolic-- e.g. commitment or relationship) and he went off and wifed up the chick who he actually had to work for... I'm just saying..
V
