Do You Frown Upon Women Who Have Children Young?
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No, I don't "frown" on it although it would generally be better if they waited until they were older and more prepared to be mothers (pretending, for conversation sake, that I'm not an anti-natalist). I don't see why anyone needs to have children in their 20s.
You're an anti-natalist? -
Nope... everybody makes mistakes and I rarely judge people.
If she's real enough to call her child a "mistake", I'd actually date her. I'd even go for her saying the kid is, "The best mistake I ever made". I'm not a complete ? about it.
Other than that, I'm frowning. -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »You're an anti-natalist?
I'm an anti-natalist. -
If she's real enough to call her child a "mistake", I'd actually date her. I'd even go for her saying the kid is, "The best mistake I ever made". I'm not a complete ? about it.
Other than that, I'm frowning.
Yh but them kids might not be mistakes...Accidents...Surprises... -
I'm an anti-natalist.
A liberal like you?...(Well I assume you're a liberal)...What country you in? -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »Yh but them kids might not be mistakes...Accidents...Surprises...
I can dig calling it an accident, but a surprise? They must still believe in ..........
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CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »A liberal like you?...(Well I assume you're a liberal)...What country you in?
I'm in Canada. People should have the right to reproduce, I just think they should avoid doing so, for the time being, for ecological and philanthropic reasons. -
I'm in Canada. People should have the right to reproduce, I just think they should avoid doing so, for the time being, for ecological and philanthropic reasons.
If you could..How long would you stop people from havin' babies? -
Coby Vibes wrote: »having kids young is not a new phenomenon. it's the circumstances that surround it. Is she a child bride? is the man significantly older? is it someone her own age? do they plan on building a family together, etc
I still frown upon all of this too... -
I frown on women who have kids in their 20s out of wedlock more so than kids having kids. A woman in her 20s should know better. Kids having kids is mostly a parenting fault.
Both camps have zero value to me as a mate, however. -
I frown on women who have kids in their 20s out of wedlock more so than kids having kids. A woman in her 20s should know better. Kids having kids is mostly a parenting fault.
Both camps have zero value to me as a mate, however.
Disagree...Parents get the blame for everything...You're 14/18 you should be slick enough to use protection...And which set of parents get the blame?...b.mamma or b.daddy> -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote: »Disagree...Parents get the blame for everything...You're 14/18 you should be slick enough to use protection...And which set of parents get the blame?...b.mamma or b.daddy>
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I frown on women who have kids in their 20s out of wedlock more so than kids having kids. A woman in her 20s should know better. Kids having kids is mostly a parenting fault.
Both camps have zero value to me as a mate, however.
people can choose to have kids in their 20's outta wedlock as long as they can take care of them... what's the big deal? if it was a 40yr old single woman who was artificially inseminated because her bio clock was running out.
you gonna tell her she less than wifey material and should know better -
CeLLaR-DooR wrote:Disagree...Parents get the blame for everything...You're 14/18 you should be slick enough to use protection...And which set of parents get the blame?...b.mamma or b.daddy>
Both sets. Unless the male is over 21, in which case, that's another discussion. You SHOULD BE, but bad parenting can create idiots, or undisciplined kids.
I do it all the time. I'll date women, find out they have kids, and I make it very clear to them I can't be in a long term relationship. I will still try to have sex with them, but I try to be honest about the long term situation. Some men feel very differently, and they deserve the option to meet each other.coby vibes wrote:you gonna tell her she less than wifey material and should know better -
Yes and no, I just look at it like wasted youth, someone who will never live up to full potential. But I've known some pretty impressive young women who juggled a kid at the same time, so I guess it depends on the person and the circumstances.
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No one has the right to look down on another person for any reason really. You've never been in that person's shoes so you can never know the circumstances they've lived in. As far as being attracted to a woman with kids...negatory homes. She has to be extra spectacular to hold my interest if she already has kids, even if she's been married. I saw what my uncle went through marrying a woman who already had a kid and her babies daddy causing all kinds of drama in their life so nahh my G.
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Na, unless they lost their figure...
Then I'd be like what a ? ' waste SMH. -
I do a little bit. But only because I know her life isn't gonna be the same and she's gonna have to put some ? on hold. It's more out of pity because she won't get to fully live her life and find out who she is yet before she has to be responsible to tell somebody else how to live.
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:shrugs: "Hoes go' be hoes so I couldn't blame Tammy" -Lil Wayne
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No one has the right to look down on another person for any reason really. You've never been in that person's shoes so you can never know the circumstances they've lived in.
I disagree. Some people, especially older people, have been in another person's shoes before. And just because you haven't been in that person shoes doesn't mean that they aren't worthy of being looked down upon for whatever reason.
As for the thread's question, yes I generally tend to frown upon women (and men) who have children young. Kids shouldn't raise kids. -
I honestly couldn't care less what others chose to do in their lives.
Do you look down on hoes who are attention ? ? just asking.... -
nope that's their past and most important THEIR BUSINESS!!!
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No not at all. I normally laugh.
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I generally do. Even if they do turn out to be a "success".
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id hit it tho..
