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silverfoxx
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So before I say what I'm about to say, I'm asking humbly to please keep all the Donkey/trolling comments out. This is my first relationship, and this situation is a a very humbling experience I'm learning about myself, and I believe the IC can provide some good advice if this subject matter is taking seriously, because honestly to me it is.
So basically it's been six months with my lady, we had our ups and downs, but things have definitely progressed well for us. I realised recently that we been less physical and my girl basically finally admitted that I'm a ? and she feels like a sex object.
Being raised from NO, sex is something that is super open and casual, it's projected through our culture and our music like bounce music.
I honestly feel like ? , horrible and I wanna make things right and work on my sex drive and my ? for my girl since she is fine AF in my eyes. Before folks ask, yes I am respectful, romantic, mindful, caring, etc. But her issue with me is that I'm too sexual.
Is there any good way to calm down sex drives or to decrease ? for a partner? I feel like my sex drive and ? for my girl increases every time I see her. But honestly I don't wanna make her feel like ? , so I'm trying to mature and fix my ways since this my first real relationship.
So basically it's been six months with my lady, we had our ups and downs, but things have definitely progressed well for us. I realised recently that we been less physical and my girl basically finally admitted that I'm a ? and she feels like a sex object.
Being raised from NO, sex is something that is super open and casual, it's projected through our culture and our music like bounce music.
I honestly feel like ? , horrible and I wanna make things right and work on my sex drive and my ? for my girl since she is fine AF in my eyes. Before folks ask, yes I am respectful, romantic, mindful, caring, etc. But her issue with me is that I'm too sexual.
Is there any good way to calm down sex drives or to decrease ? for a partner? I feel like my sex drive and ? for my girl increases every time I see her. But honestly I don't wanna make her feel like ? , so I'm trying to mature and fix my ways since this my first real relationship.
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no. That's who you are, if that's something she can't deal with then she's got some thinking to do. You ain't gotta change ? , either she takes you as you are or she can bounce. Explain it to her slowly, and if she still thinks that way then...
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INB4 someone asks for pics.
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INB4 someone says you share that girl.
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INB4 someone asks for pics.
And this. Real ? , both comments is expected, but I'll just ignore all the LOLs folks gonna try to get, and only respond to people who seriously know how to handle this ? and that's trying to give real advice and not no HOH player for life type ? . I'm sure I'm not the only ? going through this. -
Oh you was a playa last month in the scumbag there but now you in love?
Told you you was a storybook captain save a hoe -
take a cold shower or go ? when you're ? or you just gotta learn to control your urges
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Lol.
Chics like to ? just as much. But it's about how you make them feel. If you act like that's your primary interest and not finessing the other areas then she going to feel like a sex object. -
Theres a chick out there who can match your sex drive
U can suppress it all u want...if shes not down theres a break up with u cheating in the making -
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Theres nothing wrong with u.. Her libido is low.
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I ve finally come to this theory, for a man there's usually gonna be 2 women, the one u want to raise ur kids and the one just wanna smash all crazy....if u lucky they the same girl and very lucky they the same girl....if not u got to do what u gotta do my ?
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How often do you spend time doing things that don't involve sex?
Tbh it might even benefit you to act disinterested for a few weeks. She will probably nose dive into lingerie and all that stuff women do when they think they've lost thier mans attention.
The other question I have is how old is she?
Sounds crazy but most women's sex drive ramps up between 30 and 33.
6 months in shouldn't have these problems though. It's probably more her own psych issues than your sex drive. If that is the case you can expect this to be a constant theme
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What she don't do, the next woman will.
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Ima give you some real advice.
Heres the first, in a relationship you gotta be down to sacrifice certain things. If you come up with a list of things that you want in a girl, you never gonna find one that has all those things.
Important thing in life is to learn what parts of that list you can sacrifice and what parts you cant. And you doing that. Regardless of the outcome make sure you learn from it.
Now here comes the part you not gonna wanna hear. Out of things that make 2 people compatible, sex drive is one of the most important things and ive almost never seen relationships work where the two peoples sex drives were not compatible. Your girl gotta have the same freak level as you, not more, not less. So on that list that I mentioned about things you can safrifice, im telling you now sex is not gonna be one of them. Not saying dont try, just saying many men tried what you about too and almost all failed. -
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How often do you spend time doing things that don't involve sex?
Tbh it might even benefit you to act disinterested for a few weeks. She will probably nose dive into lingerie and all that stuff women do when they think they've lost thier mans attention.
The other question I have is how old is she?
Sounds crazy but most women's sex drive ramps up between 30 and 33.
6 months in shouldn't have these problems though. It's probably more her own psych issues than your sex drive. If that is the case you can expect this to be a constant theme
I've read this article and it was saying the same ? . I'm taking notes fellas. She is 24. I been thirsty IMO so I'ma chill. Like y'all said, you live and learn. I'm learning.
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Second part of advice, and this is the realest ? ever bruh, dont pay too much mind to a woman cause women dont know what they want. Soon as you try to find out what they want and start trying to do all that, relationship will fail.
Real talk, i had 1 girl I was gonna marry before ? fell apart. We was together a long time. One of her complaints from the first day we got together till the end was her being bothered that I never got jealous, never told her what to do, where not to go. She kept saying she felt like I didnt care, and I kept saying nah I trust you. Which was right, she was definetly a trustable one.
Now, i talked to the ? recently just to catch up, and ? said that she got so much more freedom now and when we was together she had no freedom. So I burst out laughing, she asked why, and I reminded her all the times she complained about me never being jealous and never telling her what not to do, and now she saying she got all this freedom. Told her cant have it both ways.
Saying all that to say, women really dont know what they want, and they can legit want something with all their heart today, and that thing will change 6 months and now they will legit want the opposite.
So keep that in mind and do you. Not every relationship meant to work out. Hope yours does, but if it doesnt, dont let it consume you. -
6 months in shouldn't have these problems though.
True. By 6 months the ? should damn near be fallin off or at least numb from ? your girl so much....given they both have compatible schedules.
Some ppl out here cant ? after their partner if they tried, n here he is asking how to decrease his ? for his girl.
Mannnnnn im rootin for ya tho good luck -
Lol.
Chics like to ? just as much. But it's about how you make them feel. If you act like that's your primary interest and not finessing the other areas then she going to feel like a sex object.
This.
Women LOVE sex. 99% of all media women make or are aimed at them involve sex in some way.
What they want is the finesse. If you just tackling her every half hour that ? going to not only make her believe she's not worth anything but its also going to bore her to death.
You gotta rev the engine up. Engage her when its not about sex. Little ? like just holding general ass conversation goes a long way. -
If you're not trying to cheat and trying to stay with her, exercise some self discipline. Culture or not, you control you. If she's not trying to ? all the time find some ? to do to occupy your time.
Chicks get burnt out and need a break. Give the oussy a rest and let her build up her desire to ? . You giving her too much. Women like to be wanted not lusted after.
I've been I strictly sexual relationships and they are great in the beginning but once that ? gets old and boring ain't nothing saving it if sex is all we had in common.
You're gonna find yourself getting extorted via the ? . She's gonna wise up and start using that ? as a reward/punishment system to train you.
I learned early never let the ? overpower you. Sometimes it's good to look but don't touch. Let the tension build a little bit. -
So much game and good advice. I appreciate the incite fellas and Women. Like I said I'm still learning, so this is all new to me. What y'all saying is true. I definitely apply the information.
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Elzo69Renaissance wrote: »I ve finally come to this theory, for a man there's usually gonna be 2 women, the one u want to raise ur kids and the one just wanna smash all crazy....if u lucky they the same girl and very lucky they the same girl....if not u got to do what u gotta do my ?
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I stopped at 6 months with ups and downs.
Time to bang other females, boy.
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