True Life: I'm a woman, I don't want kids, and marriage isn't a priority
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haute
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Seriously, I don't
And it's not a knock against mothers, its just not something I desire for myself
Many think women are biggest critics of a woman not wanting children
But I find that men are the ones who cast the most judgement
The same ones, screaming no marriage, no this, no that
Are the same ones quick to talk ? about a woman choosing to do what she wants for her body and her future
I've dated guys who at first, thought it was cool, or maybe just didnt take what I said seriously
but as we progress and get more serious, all of a sudden it becomes this big deal
Im like "dude, I told you thats not what I want for my future, you and your mom need to ? "
its annoying
FYI if your under 23 stay the ? outta this convo
And it's not a knock against mothers, its just not something I desire for myself
Many think women are biggest critics of a woman not wanting children
But I find that men are the ones who cast the most judgement
The same ones, screaming no marriage, no this, no that
Are the same ones quick to talk ? about a woman choosing to do what she wants for her body and her future
I've dated guys who at first, thought it was cool, or maybe just didnt take what I said seriously
but as we progress and get more serious, all of a sudden it becomes this big deal
Im like "dude, I told you thats not what I want for my future, you and your mom need to ? "
its annoying
FYI if your under 23 stay the ? outta this convo
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Will you marry me and have MY baby???
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what do you use as birth control, nh?
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who cares....keep doing you
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good for you,,,u saved a some ? from being a babydaddy
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its always a win when a black woman chooses not to procreate
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Fundz O' Plenty wrote: »Will you marry me and have MY baby???
this is my attempt at a grown discussionwhat do you use as birth control, nh? -
will you have my baby?
if not we can get one from a third-world country
c'mon it'll be fun -
well that ? can't be trusted...what do you do in the event you become pregnant?
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@ haute, sorry love... You always have mad jokes but you're right.
Just keep doin' your thing. You just have to find someone that's on the same page as you. -
i mean if u know that's what u want that's cool.....
but forreal, if u find urself in a serious relationship withsomeone who u know wants kids eventualy...don't be suprised if that's a deal breaker... -
i understand exactly what you're saying...sometimes I feel like adopting a yorkie and loving life the way it is
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well that ? can't be trusted...what do you do in the event you become pregnant?
I'm not getting preganat
I've been using BC for 8 years no scares, no hiccups
so yall would be cool being in a relationship with a chick, and possibly marrying her, if she said I don't want kids ever, ever, ever -
but forreal, you gonna be like Cat Lady on the Simpsons
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well what purpose do you have to even exist...?
justaquestion -
huh? theyre both 99.99% effective
I'm not getting preganat
I've been using BC for 8 years no scares, no hiccups
so yall would be cool being in a relationship with a chick, and possibly marrying her, if she said I don't want kids ever, ever, ever
all i'm saying is that there is that chance you get pregnant. If that happens, i'm wondering if you'll choose your own dreams and picture for an ideal life over compomising those dreams by having the baby. -
Fundz O' Plenty wrote: »@ haute, sorry love... You always have mad jokes but you're right.
Just keep doin' your thing. You just have to find someone that's on the same page as you.
i do ? in other peoples threads oftenBlackRoses wrote: »i understand exactly what you're saying...sometimes I feel like adopting a yorkie and loving life the way it isItz Luigi ? ! wrote: »well what purpose do you have to even exist...?
justaquestion -
why you lie?
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nothings wrong with not wanting kids.
truthfully i think alot of women get married and have kids because they think thats what they are 'suppossed' to do
then they get in that situation and hate their lives -
all i'm saying is that there is that chance you get pregnant. If that happens, i'm wondering if you'll choose your own dreams and picture for an ideal life over compomising those dreams by having the baby.
chances are for those who put themselves in certain circumstances, chances are for those who make a decision in the moment
I will not get pregnant unless I make a decision that thats what I want
there is no 'what if' -
i'm under 23 and i do what i want
just seemed necessary.. -
[QUOTE=haute;630077why does a womans purpose have to start with a child and a man??????[/QUOTE]
i was sorta kiddin...' but now that i think about it, who else is goin to keep this ? goin if more fe's started thinkin like you...? -
dang ima be 23 in like 24 days
guess i'll freepost -
How old are you haute?
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its almost a certain that something major will happen in your life, such as pregnancy or possible losing a male companion, and you'll be forced to either choose the route you've laid out here or that will all get thrown out the window. I'm just wondering how convicted you are in your belief.