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[QUOTE=jek;1032997]LOL @ people not believing they can see the world and experience ? with a loving wife. If anything doin stuff with a soulmate make all those other experiences better. Granted Not every wife is a soulmate but you mean to tell me you cant get thru law school or devry and some other ? with a wife cooking you dinner, helping you study, you getting ? without the girl frontin, and she basically do what a girlfriend would do duties wise.[/QUOTE]
exactly...im not saying go out and get married at 19 but people acting like your life ends when you become married...that probably explains why their so against it to begin with...marriage doesn't equal the end of your life -
lol age means different things for men and women, i'm slowly learning that now
i'm 27 feeling good feeling great about not being married
but alotta females around my age are seeing their friends get married and have kids...
plus they're biological clocking isnt exactly ticking yet, but its being wound. they out here looking.... -
wazz good loo
dam u old ? lol -
konceptjones wrote: »smh at you young muhfukkas.
Folks used to get married at 15 or 16 and stay together until they die of old age. Not too long ago you had people getting married in their 20's and are still married today (hell, I got married at 28).
Y'all got ADD when it comes to relationships.
Folks used to live alot shorter lives too.
So yeah, they may have gotten married at 15
But they died at 40
@ QB: whattup. yeah im gettin old. i realized it when all my favorite rappers are looking old as ? .
i saw a recent interview with Capone and Noreaga them ? looked like two old drunks. -
Koncept's post act like if u dont wanna get married ur doin something wrong. I disagree.
Everybody aint lookin for a wife, the dudes that understand how to deal with women usually dont get married and if so its definitely not under 25.
Dont get mad cuz u stuck wit the best u could do @ 20. Some people wanna get their stock up first then find a mate.
"Just because u got good head, imma break bread so you can be livin it up?".....Nah, im good
Thank you and c/s -
American Loo VII 3D wrote: »Folks used to live alot shorter lives too.
So yeah, they may have gotten married at 15
But they died at 40
@ QB: whattup. yeah im gettin old. i realized it when all my favorite rappers are looking old as ? .
i saw a recent interview with Capone and Noreaga them ? looked like two old drunks.
yeah them ? is old lol
they still poppin tho -
Bulletproof Wallets wrote: »My problem is with the people that look down on me because Im not married and don't have kids. Its almost like they resent my FREEDOM.
Speak on it. I am the SOLE person left on my mom's side of the family that's older than 18 wither not married or with no kids. And I've been with my girl of-and-on since like 2002. (I'm 27; my girl's 26. We both got degrees and career aspirations)
EVERY ? family reunion I hear that same dumb-ass questions:
"When y'all getting married?
"Where the kids at?"
"What cha waiting for?"
I'm like, this ain't a race, ? . If we do decided to jump that broom, it'll be on OUR time. Besides, watching them handle my nicece, nephews, and infant cousins is all the motivation we need to keep wearing the baby blockers.
Why the ? do I want to rush to look miserable like y'all for?
I'm sure marriage is cool, but not when you're not ready or "getting marries for the kids' sake". That ? is TAILOR made to fail. -
i remember this married chick used to always ask me when im gettin married
like always. she got a divorce about a month ago too.
i asked her about it. she said, "marriage is overrated"
smh @ her wanting to see me miserable. -
Now I am sure I sound repetitive considering this thread has been done before but that was a long time ago.
I will say a lot of these "girls" nowadays are focusing way too much on having a big fancy wedding, an extravagant dress and a rock the size of the sun.
I personally would be content with nobody but myself and my man at the altar. Going down to city hall is fine by me and more desirable than a wedding ceremony. Now, if he would like small wedding, then we can discuss and compromise but I would prefer something small or no ceremony at all. We can have a family get together after we have married
As for the ring, if my husband were to purpose to me with a diamond ring, I would then know he was not the man for me.
A man that knows me will know that I do not like diamonds so I definitely don't want one bought for me. If he were to present me with such a ring clearly he would not know me and marriage wouldn't be an option.
Also, people think that a marriage license often defines their love for each other.
Many obtain a false sense of security or perhaps validation in that persons life. It doesn't justify the depth of your relationship. A wedding or the title "married" doesnt hold any weight when it comes to the actual fabric of the relationship. There are many people who aren't married who have better relationships and respect for the relationship more than some of those who have walked down the aisle. How does that title ALONE validate the quality of the relationship itself? It simply does not. For those who desire marriage, it should be a result of having built a foundation of many factors on solid ground.
Nowadays even relationships seem to be jokes.
So, only once you put a ring on your finger should you be committed and faithful? Monogamy, trust and honesty only applies to marriages?
Marriage cannot define anything. It is the two people within the relationship that make it what it is. Don't you think that the relationship prior to the marriage is a window into the life you will live as one unit for the years to come?
The marriage does not mold the relationship, the relationship molds the marriage and what kind of marriage it will be.
Personally I feel that marriage is taken for granted. People rush to get married then soon after divorced.
I know exactly what it is that I look for in a man. I refuse to settle for anything less than what I need and want. I deserve it as I put forth my all and very best and a good man deserves me.
Until I have been with someone for many years and we are on that level, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, we live together and have been through a lot, marriage is not an option. Marriage is absolute and I will not take that for granted. Once I get married, I dont plan on ever getting divorced. -
i am not reading that ?
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QB - 4th Edition wrote: »i am not reading that ?
I'm sure what she wrote could have been said just as well with fewer words.
Marley likes to hear herself type. -
Preach.. men and women.. Most people love the party ring and all the icing of the cake.... instead of the actual cake but its more than that day... its about the duration of the "Marriage"
Its like...
a Circle. not a triangle. -
American Loo VII 3D wrote: »I'm sure what she wrote could have been said just as well with fewer words.
Marley likes to hear herself type.
Actually, this time I just copied and pasted some of it from a previous thread with the same subject.
But you're right, I love hearing myself type. The clicking sound my fingers make when pressed upon the buttons is an aphrodisiac. -
QB - 4th Edition wrote: »i am not reading that ?
Right? Neither am I! -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Now I am sure I sound repetitive considering this thread has been done before but that was a long time ago.
I will say a lot of these "girls" nowadays are focusing way too much on having a big fancy wedding, an extravagant dress and a rock the size of the sun.
I personally would be content with nobody but myself and my man at the altar. Going down to city hall is fine by me and more desirable than a wedding ceremony. Now, if he would like small wedding, then we can discuss and compromise but I would prefer something small or no ceremony at all. We can have a family get together after we have married
As for the ring, if my husband were to purpose to me with a diamond ring, I would then know he was not the man for me.
A man that knows me will know that I do not like diamonds so I definitely don't want one bought for me. If he were to present me with such a ring clearly he would not know me and marriage wouldn't be an option.
Also, people think that a marriage license often defines their love for each other.
Many obtain a false sense of security or perhaps validation in that persons life. It doesn't justify the depth of your relationship. A wedding or the title "married" doesnt hold any weight when it comes to the actual fabric of the relationship. There are many people who aren't married who have better relationships and respect for the relationship more than some of those who have walked down the aisle. How does that title ALONE validate the quality of the relationship itself? It simply does not. For those who desire marriage, it should be a result of having built a foundation of many factors on solid ground.
Nowadays even relationships seem to be jokes.
So, only once you put a ring on your finger should you be committed and faithful? Monogamy, trust and honesty only applies to marriages?
Marriage cannot define anything. It is the two people within the relationship that make it what it is. Don't you think that the relationship prior to the marriage is a window into the life you will live as one unit for the years to come?
The marriage does not mold the relationship, the relationship molds the marriage and what kind of marriage it will be.
Personally I feel that marriage is taken for granted. People rush to get married then soon after divorced.
I know exactly what it is that I look for in a man. I refuse to settle for anything less than what I need and want. I deserve it as I put forth my all and very best and a good man deserves me.
Until I have been with someone for many years and we are on that level, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, we live together and have been through a lot, marriage is not an option. Marriage is absolute and I will not take that for granted. Once I get married, I dont plan on ever getting divorced.
I can ? with this.. Print this ? out and pass it around..
But like the prevailing culture.. everything is microwaveable/fast food now adays.. no one wants a homecooked food from the soul -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Right? Neither am I!
lmao......... WHATS GOOD MARLEY MARL!!! -
playmaker88 wrote: »I can ? with this.. Print this ? out and pass it around..
But like the prevailing culture.. everything is microwaveable/fast food now adays.. no one wants a homecooked food from the soul
I wouldn't say no one but I get what you are saying.
It's like how many from the islands stereotype Americans and say how Americans only eat fast food, they do not cook.
LMAO.
I heard a man say that and I couldn't help but laugh. We had a whole discussion about it cause while that does not go for all Americans, there is a vast majority that will choose convenience over cooking, as if cooking is so hard. Cooking a meal doesn't even take that much time but the fast route is often appealing to many.
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QB - 4th Edition wrote: »lmao......... WHATS GOOD MARLEY MARL!!!
Hola! Buenas tardes.
I am just relaxing this Sunday Morning. *looks at time* Oops, Sunday afternoon is what I meant.
How are you? -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Hola! Buenas tardes.
I am just relaxing this Sunday Morning. *looks at time* Oops, Sunday afternoon is what I meant.
How are you?
im chillin... doing the same thing you doing...
later today, i'm gonna try to make funnel cakes for the 1st time
i hope i make em right.. i am an ok cook, but these seem hard lol -
QB - 4th Edition wrote: »im chillin... doing the same thing you doing...
later today, i'm gonna try to make funnel cakes for the 1st time
i hope i make em right.. i am an ok cook, but these seem hard lol
Mmmmmhhh, I love funnel cakes. I love to put ice cream and a bunch of strawberries on top..... *drools a fountain* The combination of hot cake, cold ice cream and juicy strawberries is ......well....* homer drool* -
Conscious__Nkechi wrote: »Mmmmmhhh, I love funnel cakes. I love to put ice cream and a bunch of strawberries on top..... *drools a fountain* The combination of hot cake, cold ice cream and juicy strawberries is ......well....* homer drool*
i went to busch gardens a few weeks ago and had some with some apples on top and a pepsi
that ? was good as hell. i was full afterwards, that ? was actually a meal lol -
plat push.
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Marriage is an outdated concept. Marriage was an institution based on codependecy of Men and Woman
woman could not work so they needed the stable commitment from a husband for money and financial support. This resorted in it not being
alot of single woman around so if men wanted steady sex on a daily basis a serios relationship or marriage
was there best option Those marriages in the 1950's and 60's were not about love it was about convience and security.
now that woman can work the NEED for marriage no longer applies. which is why most marrieges fail now
Men and woman no longer need each other in the long-term commited way.
Marriage now a days is a nice addition or accesory i life not a requirement.
The problem is people treat it like a requirment. i would say only about 25% of people
i9n our generation could really do marriage for 20 yrs plus. its not that we bad people
its just the economic circumstance for marriages to work smooth on a widescale is not there.
besides if you love each other why do you need a piece of paper to validateit its just
a freaking piece of paper signed by a judge. -
[QUOTE=politicalthug202;1038194
besides if you love each other why do you need a piece of paper to validateit its just
a freaking piece of paper signed by a judge.[/QUOTE]
If it comes down to this...whats the big deal with getting married when at the end of the day the signing of this paper might bring you SOME financial breaks with taxes. -
politicalthug202 wrote: »Marriage is an outdated concept. Marriage was an institution based on codependecy of Men and Woman
woman could not work so they needed the stable commitment from a husband for money and financial support. This resorted in it not being
alot of single woman around so if men wanted steady sex on a daily basis a serios relationship or marriage
was there best option Those marriages in the 1950's and 60's were not about love it was about convience and security.
now that woman can work the NEED for marriage no longer applies. which is why most marrieges fail now
Men and woman no longer need each other in the long-term commited way.
Marriage now a days is a nice addition or accesory i life not a requirement.
The problem is people treat it like a requirment. i would say only about 25% of people
i9n our generation could really do marriage for 20 yrs plus. its not that we bad people
its just the economic circumstance for marriages to work smooth on a widescale is not there.
besides if you love each other why do you need a piece of paper to validateit its just
a freaking piece of paper signed by a judge.
truth. close thread
